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I proposed and he said no.
Relationship Stress / by Candy0929
Last post
 April 9th, 2016
...See more am korean girl and he is american. he came to korea to teach english to make money becasue he wanted to go back to school. i met him his second year of korea through a friend. we clicked right away and became gf and bf. he lives 2hours away by car from me. he comes down to see me every weekend. where he works is kinda rural area and boring so its much fun to come see me since i have a nice place and a car to get around. he comes on friday night and stay with me until sunday afternoon every weekend. when we first started dating we were all good but i wasnt secure in this relationship because he never said he loves me. one day when i saw him off at the train station i said 'have a safe trip, love you' but he didnt reply. i was embarassed and later he told me he places significant value on 'love' so he wouldnt say 'i love you' until he is sure to get married to the person. i wasnt happy about that but respected his view. another thing was he will eventually leave when his school working contract is over. so i asked if he is looking for seriouse relationship with me or not about after 5month into the relationship. he told me several reasons why we can't be togerther. first, he is religous. he is seventh day advantist and im not a christian. i used to be a christian but i had some doubts and quit. but i said i have no objection to his religion and i kinda like it because christian guys have better chance to be a nice person. second. he said he misses his family a lot and he needs to go back. so we broke up i told him not to contact me. i delited his number. two month later he texted me and he said he wanted to meet me. so we met up and he said he wanted to get back together. he missed me a lot and actually i missed him a lot too. so we got together. he said this his coming back meant he wants a serious relationship with me. frankly, i was happy to get him back. we had such a great relationship. he treated me good. i treated him better. every weekend we went on picnic and met friends of each other. his parents came to korea to see him and i was glad to be a tour guide for them. his brother came for vacation also i helped them to get around in korea. one day he said he wanted to meet my parents too. becasue i havent told my parents about him. in korea introducing boyfriend to parents is a big deal. i explained to him and he said he is okay to see my parents. so i broke the news that i have been dating an american guy for a year to my parents and we visited my parents. my parents were cool with it. so everything was good. except he hasnt said he loves me yet. but i waited, becasue i felt he treats me with love, he was very sweet and i could feel he cares about me a lot. i was patient with that. but it wasnt easy not hearing thoes three words from boyfriend. so recently when i thought our relationship is getthing more serious and i need to know his real intention as his contract is over next february. i asked what he would do when the time he need to leave this country come which is next february. i thought he would either stay here with me or take me to the states with him and we get married. he said he dosesnt know. he came here to make money to go back to school and need to start to get ready for real career. he doesnt even know what to study yet. he would have neither house or job yet. he said he cant take me with him with this uncertainty for himself. i said i'm willng to go through hardships in america if it was with him. but he said he had to be selfish here and he is not willing to. i said he can stay in korea with me and become professional english teacher or we can even open a english school in korea which seems more stable option to me. he said he misses his family so much and he doesnt want his children to deal with cultural differnces. i asked if he ever loved me. i said you have never said it to me but i was able to deal with it because you were like you loved me with the way you treated me. he said he loves me. at least i was relieved at this point, since i heard thoes three words which made my two year of being with him not a tatal waste. i still love him and he said he loves me. but he cant take me to the states and cant stay in korea. he said he doesnt know what to do. i asked him to get married to me and we will figure out. he said he doesnt want to get married. then he left, i am left. i told him to think about it. and we havent talked since then. it has been three day. i want him to stay with me in korea and have a family or even want to go to america and start new life there with him. i am wating for his decision or answers. what should i do? should i just let him go? he might just want to be with me only until next february and then leave me or if things turned around by the time he might change his mind about me.... should i just let him go...? i need your honest opinions....
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I proposed and he said no.
Relationship Stress / by Candy0929
Last post
 April 10th, 2016
...See more am korean girl and he is american. he came to korea to teach english to make money becasue he wanted to go back to school. i met him his second year of korea through a friend. we clicked right away and became gf and bf. he lives 2hours away by car from me. he comes down to see me every weekend. where he works is kinda rural area and boring so its much fun to come see me since i have a nice place and a car to get around. he comes on friday night and stay with me until sunday afternoon every weekend. when we first started dating we were all good but i wasnt secure in this relationship because he never said he loves me. one day when i saw him off at the train station i said 'have a safe trip, love you' but he didnt reply. i was embarassed and later he told me he places significant value on 'love' so he wouldnt say 'i love you' until he is sure to get married to the person. i wasnt happy about that but respected his view. another thing was he will eventually leave when his school working contract is over. so i asked if he is looking for seriouse relationship with me or not about after 5month into the relationship. he told me several reasons why we can't be togerther. first, he is religous. he is seventh day advantist and im not a christian. i used to be a christian but i had some doubts and quit. but i said i have no objection to his religion and i kinda like it because christian guys have better chance to be a nice person. second. he said he misses his family a lot and he needs to go back. so we broke up i told him not to contact me. i delited his number. two month later he texted me and he said he wanted to meet me. so we met up and he said he wanted to get back together. he missed me a lot and actually i missed him a lot too. so we got together. he said this his coming back meant he wants a serious relationship with me. frankly, i was happy to get him back. we had such a great relationship. he treated me good. i treated him better. every weekend we went on picnic and met friends of each other. his parents came to korea to see him and i was glad to be a tour guide for them. his brother came for vacation also i helped them to get around in korea. one day he said he wanted to meet my parents too. becasue i havent told my parents about him. in korea introducing boyfriend to parents is a big deal. i explained to him and he said he is okay to see my parents. so i broke the news that i have been dating an american guy for a year to my parents and we visited my parents. my parents were cool with it. so everything was good. except he hasnt said he loves me yet. but i waited, becasue i felt he treats me with love, he was very sweet and i could feel he cares about me a lot. i was patient with that. but it wasnt easy not hearing thoes three words from boyfriend. so recently when i thought our relationship is getthing more serious and i need to know his real intention as his contract is over next february. i asked what he would do when the time he need to leave this country come which is next february. i thought he would either stay here with me or take me to the states with him and we get married. he said he dosesnt know. he came here to make money to go back to school and need to start to get ready for real career. he doesnt even know what to study yet. he would have neither house or job yet. he said he cant take me with him with this uncertainty for himself. i said i'm willng to go through hardships in america if it was with him. but he said he had to be selfish here and he is not willing to. i said he can stay in korea with me and become professional english teacher or we can even open a english school in korea which seems more stable option to me. he said he misses his family so much and he doesnt want his children to deal with cultural differnces. i asked if he ever loved me. i said you have never said it to me but i was able to deal with it because you were like you loved me with the way you treated me. he said he loves me. at least i was relieved at this point, since i heard thoes three words which made my two year of being with him not a tatal waste. i still love him and he said he loves me. but he cant take me to the states and cant stay in korea. he said he doesnt know what to do. i asked him to get married to me and we will figure out. he said he doesnt want to get married. then he left, i am left. i told him to think about it. and we havent talked since then. it has been three day. i want him to stay with me in korea and have a family or even want to go to america and start new life there with him. i am wating for his decision or answers. what should i do? should i just let him go? he might just want to be with me only until next february and then leave me or if things turned around by the time he might change his mind about me.... should i just let him go...? i need your honest opinions....
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