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CannedPears
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PathStep 21 Compassion hearts31 Forum posts31 Forum upvotes16 Current upvotes16 Age GroupAdult Last activeOctober, 2021 Member sinceMarch 18, 2020
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AMA I have a fat fetish, ask me anything.
Relationship Stress / by CannedPears
Last post
 December 25th, 2020
...See more I like being able to freely talk about my fetish. I find it kind of therapeutic as I've spent most of my life hiding it.
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Not sure what I'm doing
Depression Support / by CannedPears
Last post
 November 6th, 2020
...See more I've lost all drive. I used to draw, play guitar, play videogames but I've lost the desire to do any of those things. I'm lonely all the time, my drawing has gotten aweful, and I can't even concentrate on games. I'm miserable all the time and I can't focus on classes. I've been spending most of my time sleeping or, and I'm really sorry if this is TMI, masterbating and I'm even starting to lose interest in that. I just feel like I'm going through the motions to avoid disappointing people.
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Feel like I can't talk about self harm.
Self-Harm Recovery / by CannedPears
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 October 24th, 2020
...See more I spent some time in a psychiatric ward a few years back. I was suicidal and was scratching myself. Since getting out I have mostly refrained from self harm but tonight I scratched myself. Whenever the topic of self harm comes up I get scared and feel like I can't talk about it or I may get admitted again. It feels like there's this threat of hospitalization if I dare mention any thoughts of self harm or suicide.
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I have a fetish that I obsessively worry about
Relationship Stress / by CannedPears
Last post
 August 18th, 2020
...See more I've had a fat/weight gain fetish as long as I can remember and in untill the last couple of years I kept it a secret. I've now told some close and trusted friends as well as a counselor about it and none of them seemed at all concerned. I appreciate that my friends have been accepting but in a way their lack of questions or concern makes me feel like they don't understand just how big of a deal coming out about it was for me. I'm constantly worrying about how it may affect relationships or what other may think about it. I feel incredibly awkward whenever the topic of weight gain or overweight women comes up and I feel terrible andwand perverted when I'm turned on by someone talking about their weight (especially if they're upset about it). I just don't know what I should do. Talking to people about it seems to do little more than just satisfying the urge to get it off my chest and googling anything related to fat fetishism gets me article after article demonizing the fetish and those with it while only the most extreme and abusive of relationships involving the fetish.
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Why does the internet hate fat fetishes SO MUCH?
Relationship Stress / by CannedPears
Last post
 May 19th, 2020
...See more I have a fat fetish and I've noticed a lot of negativity surrounding fat fetishism. I've seen countless articles and forums discussing why people with fat fetishes are awful, manipulative, abusive, etc. and only something like three articles discussing fat fetishism in a positive and accepting manor. It seems that, with rare exceptions, most articles discussing fat fetishism either serves to make a spectacle of those with the fetish or are meant to demonize people who have the fetish. What are you thought on this?
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