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CoffeeCat777
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I'm so confused..
Relationship Stress / by CoffeeCat777
Last post
 July 27th, 2018
...See more Sorry for the long post if have a lot going on in my head right now. I'm 26 years old and in college. I met an awesome girl through friends at a small party and we hit it off instantly. We dated for four months and everything was wonderful, and we rarely had issues or arguments, when we did it was always handled calmly and quickly. We spent almost every day and night together, so time felt a lot longer than it was. We both loved each other and had fun traveling and visiting friends and family. She is an international student who just graduated and was going through a lot of stress trying to find a job in her field (she would be deported if she didnt find one in a years time..), and I tried my best to support her through this time. She had been talking to a male friend of hers who was in Europe for the year studying abroad, i would notice her talking to this guy every day and she assured me nothing was more than friends with these conversations between him, and I shouldnt worry. She told me, when we first started dating that her and this guy had a friends with benefits thing going on and that made me uncomfortable that she was still talking to him. We talked about my insecurities a few times. There had been two times, due to her depression, that she mentioned me letting her go when she was in very low points. I always told her I loved her and would stick with her, and that made her so happy. Not long ago this friend of hers came back from Europe, and I was uncomfortable with her spending time with him, but she said nothing would happen they were just hanging out with friends. I got insecure unfortunately and after a long talk late at night on the phone she said she wanted to take a break from the relationship to deal with her issues. I said ok if this is what you need, Ill let you choose what you want to do. She broke up with me that night on the terms that if she figures out her stuff we should get back together…After a while she did find a job, but did not want to think about the idea of getting back together yet. For a few months now, we have still been in communication, and we have visited my family and I have visited hers since the breakup. Whenever we spend time together things feel like they used to, we are both affectionate and loving. But as time passes we get more distant to where now its only me making effort to stay in touch and she never wants to hang out lately. She says its due to depression and confusion. Should I stay and wait for her? Was I secretly traded for this other guy friend of hers, as they still hangout often? She hasnt shared much for information with me about her life since our breakup and Im slowly going crazy inside. Ive lost all motivation in life I feel like…What should I even do right now. All my friends are gone for the summer and I feel alone in this city I moved to.
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I'm new..
Newbie Hub / by CoffeeCat777
Last post
 July 27th, 2018
...See more I have been feeling like i'm in need of other peoples help and advice for a while now. I have been going through very painful relationship issues, it has been weeks since my issues started, but i have been sucked into a deeper and deeper hole. My ex-girlfriend said I should try talking to someone about everything. So here i am i guess haha...
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