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CompassionateGirl90
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Number of ratings60 Number of reviews20 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish Listener sinceJan 18, 2016 Last activeover 6 months ago GenderFemale PathStep 55 People helped129 Chats666 Group support chats16 Listener group chats1 Forum posts174 Forum upvotes186
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I am on a self-care hiatus. Feel free to message me, but I may not be able to get back to you quickly.
I identify as an HSP and highly empathic, so I have to take breaks to care for my energy frequently.
If you experience issues surrounding:
- Being an HSP
- Anxiety
- Work Stress
- Relationship Issues / Setting Boundaries
I would be more than happy to talk with you some time. I can listen on other issues too, but they may not be my forte.
Know that you are loved.
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Lonely among people
Depression Support / by CompassionateGirl90
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July 5th, 2016
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...See more I don't have a romantic relationship but I definitely have challenges within my platonic and familial relationships. I have largely given up on romance due to the fact that what I like in a romantic/life partner is very different/rare and it's hard to find anyone who is truly a connection there. But I won't go into that because it's only a small part of my issue. I am a very giving person and I love to provide emotional support, as my username here suggests. It's hard for me to find people who reciprocate this, who won't just suck me dry. Often I find that the emotional support is more one-sided and when other people try to "help" me, they give unwanted advice; they don't truly listen or actively listen (and I greatly admire being able to just listen without giving judgment or advice, which is why I love this website so much). I was with my friends today and they had their kids with them - it felt great to be invited to lunch but I felt lonely due to the fact that I don't really have a family or anyone to go home to. These friends I went out with have been friends with each other for a while and I just met them a month or so ago. So I felt a bit bummed and lonely even though I wasn't alone. I did my best to suck it up and just act normally, although they may have noticed I was a bit quiet. You see, when I'm sad, I don't want to ruin anyone else's ability to have a good time, so I won't admit to being sad. So I go through a lot of my life unnoticed, which I get is my own doing but still, it's hard for me to consciously admit things when I know it will put a damper on people's moods. Sometimes I care more for others' happiness than for my own. But tonight I finally spoke up a little when a family member texted me and asked what I was doing, how I was, etc. I admitted to feeling a little bummed and lonely. She said, "Well make friends and make plans with them." As if I haven't already been doing that, and she didn't ask any questions to explore deeper into the issue as I would if the situation were reversed. Because I actually care deeply about people, and I feel like no one cares about me that way. And when I say this, it sounds pathetic and makes me wish I hadn't said anything. And so I keep it inside and just chew myself up and spiral worse and worse. I'm not really expecting answers to my problem but just knowing someone read it is great. Thank you. And sorry this was so long.
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Very good listener I enjoyed talking with her
I was crushed. Thanks for making me feel better....
By far one of the best Listeners I've had
What an amazing listener. Very thoughtful, compassionate, wise, supportive listener here. Listened to everything I had to say and gave encouraging words, ideas to consider and positive reflection on a lost relationship. Thank you so much for your kind words and support. Highly recommend!
She is a sensational person.
She is an incredible person.
She is a phenomenal person.
She is a wonderful person.
She is an amazing person.
She is a beautiful person.
She listen to everything I had to say. It really helped me to talk to her. :)
One of the most intelligent and insightful people that it has been my pleasure to talk to on this website.
just one word - FANTASTIC!!!
Never had a better talk with anyone before. Filled with positivity and solutions which make sense. Shall stay in touch. Love her!!
You're the best!
Extraordinary.
She's the greatest. She's my go to Listener when I'm feeling down.
Thanks for your time! :)
Holly is beyond AMAZING.... very kind, level-headed, and easy to talk to
She really is a compassionate girl and a great listener. It felt like talking to a friend. She has good insight and knows what to say. I don't want to say all this because now you all will want her to listen to your problems and then she won't have time to listen to my problems. But really, she's pretty awesome.
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