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Coolzebra0419
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PathStep 86 Compassion hearts38 Forum posts39 Forum upvotes47 Current upvotes47 Age GroupAdult Last activeOctober, 2025 Member sinceApril 19, 2021
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Dawn of a New Era
Work & Career / by Coolzebra0419
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 April 15th, 2024
...See more I have been on my current job for 5 years and have come to the conclusion that it may be time for me to leave. I am conflicted because I love the work that I do and the core group of my team. I cannot defeat the office politics though. In the 5 years, I have been denied promotions and the ability to convert to our client 8 times. When I asked for feedback on how I could improve and be considered for the roles going forward, they would lie to me saying I did things right and they know I belong in one of those positions, just to turn around and being a friend on the team in those positions. I have reached my breaking point this time. The company overall has been great to me, it is just the local political game that makes it hard for me. So, I am on the move to hopefully be appreciated somewhere else.
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Inadequate
Anxiety Support / by Coolzebra0419
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 August 22nd, 2023
...See more Good morning all. I find myself in my head a lot today. My thoughts are making me feel like I am not doing enough to provide for my family. I work 2 jobs and am taking classes to get my bachelor's degree, but it is not enough. I know in the long run that it will pay off, that doesn't calm my mind right now. The feeling of not being enough for my family is the biggest thing that brings me down.
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I'm in a stagnant phase
Motivation & Accountability / by Coolzebra0419
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 April 9th, 2023
...See more Ever since I joined 7 cups, my biggest source of frustration has been my job. I have been on the same job for 4 years now and have worked hard to be looked at as an expert in my field now. The main company I work for shows me a lot of respect for this and I am very thankful for it. I don't want my gratitude to them to be lost in my struggle. My issue is taking the next step. The main company I work for has a contract with another company to manage their inventory for their data center and one of the biggest goals for us is to make the jump to the client company because it will triple our income. In the 4 years that I have been here I thought I was putting myself into position for this, only to be skipped over multiple times so that the people who make the decisions can bring their friends on the team. Then they rely on me to show that friend the operation. I have dealt with this on previous jobs as well and it is getting old. I am 35 now with a family and I am getting tired of having people stand on my back to get success and I don't get a real chance. I keep telling myself I am going to break through this glass ceiling and set a good example for my son's, but I am finding it harder to believe this more and more. I feel like I'm not asking for a lot when I say I want to get my family away from living paycheck to paycheck and I want my son's to have experiences that will set them up for success so that they don't have to deal with half of what I deal with. The most recent trigger for my feelings came into play last week. I was out of town working at another site to help them out and when I returned, my team got rid of my stuff like I didn't exist. Ever since coming back, I feel like my team is moving into a different direction that doesn't involve me.
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Loss of Motivation
Depression Support / by Coolzebra0419
Last post
 December 28th, 2022
...See more My biggest issue with 2022 has been being discouraged throughout majority of the year on the job. This has bled into my personal life towards the end of the year. I have been on my current job for 4 years and I have done everything in our organization to make things better. I have worked on multiple certifications to prepare myself for the next step and I got passed over because of friendship. I know this has to be the last time I talk about this going into the new year. It irritated me because I have proven on multiple occasions I am more qualified than the person chosen for the job. Sadly, that doesn't matter. I can try to find another job, but I am sure I'll run into the same problems. This discouragement has led to my wife and I having a marital problems. I feel like she is no longer happy in our relationship. Going into 2023, I need to correct my mindset to stand up for what I have earned.
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Gotta Clear my head
Depression Support / by Coolzebra0419
Last post
 October 19th, 2022
...See more I have to get this rant out in hopes that it stops driving me up a wall today. I have been on my job for about 4 years now and I am seeing my window of opportunity to move up constantly closed in my face and it is not because of my performance. In my four years of being here, I have worked my way into becoming the go to person for anything my site needs. Other sites in our network view me as the source of knowledge in my department and someone they all feel comfortable coming to when they want to talk about ideas or problems they are facing. I have worked on extra credentials to help my resume look better to managers and recruiters when positions open up for me to move up as well. I am a certified lean six sigma black belt, certified in project management, and have taken multiple courses in process improvement to help me really fine tune my skills. With all of this work, it still isn't enough for me to move up to the next level. I am constantly being pushed to the back of the line and asked to train people who make 3 times as much as I do on how to do their job. The people who are out ahead of me are out in those positions because they are friends with someone in the position to make the decision. At this point, I believe I am blacklisted. I had someone tell me they would love to interview me and when they got the opportunity to do it, all they said was "I already have everything I need to make my decision." And they chose their friend over me. I am spinning wheels at this point. I want to leave, but I have not been able to find anything close to what I make, so that would hurt my family more than it would help me get out of this situation. I am focusing on learning more, not for the company but for myself. I love learning and I know it is not anything that is going to help me here. People here already have their moves predetermined and they do not include me. They just need me here to give the next person a back to stand on as they are pulled up.
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Work Woes
Work & Career / by Coolzebra0419
Last post
 September 27th, 2022
...See more This will be the first of many entries on this subject. I work for a prominent tech company as a contracted worker. I have been here for close to 4 years now and my journey has been difficult at best. Unfortunately, it isn't the work that is the difficult part. I have found ways to be considered a go to person within the company and have taken extra courses to get certified in project management and lean six sigma. My issues are with 1 person above me. In the time that I have been here, he has made multiple slick comments that he would later have to retract. He has shown favoritism multiple times towards a friend of his to promote him over me, but have me train his friend. It has now taken a more personal turn. This man has now told lies to my regional that could lead to me losing my job if they really wanted to push it. The only thing I have going for me right now is my regional doesn't believe it because they have not been able to provide any substance to their allegations.
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On the cusp of reaching my goal
Positivity & Gratitude / by Coolzebra0419
Last post
 April 19th, 2022
...See more Summer 2021 was rough. I was passed over for a promotion at my job that I worked hard for. I was passed over for someone I trained because he is friends with one of the clients we serve. I spent a couple of weeks beating myself up about it. Another position opened up that I tried to get. I received 2 referrals for the position only to be told that I did not have enough experience. When I asked what experience I could get to be prepared on it for the next attempt, they could not give me an answer. Fast forward to October 2021, I picked up a second job to make ends meet due to not getting the promotions that I banked on. I went back to an old job I used to work at because I knew the building well and was hoping that I could get attention to put pressure on my full time job to make a move. I was still in a funk. I still had animosity in my heart. I finally decided to let it go, all of my bitterness wasn't going to change anything. I decided to take all of the built up frustration and focused on making myself better. I finished getting my green belt in lean six sigma before the year ended. That created a renewed spark in me. I started creating projects that let me get more recognition on my full time job. I saved our site $200,000 by taking advantage of our warranty on flash drives. I decided to get more certifications under my belt. I am now a certified black belt in lean six sigma. With this, I am gaining more opportunities to improve our processes and get recognized for my work more. I am now in position for a bigger promotion than what I planned for. The grind can't stop now. I will not lose focused like that again.
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