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DamagedDad89
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PathStep 11 Compassion hearts191 Forum posts20 Forum upvotes38 Current upvotes38 Age GroupAdult Last activeMarch, 2023 Member sinceJanuary 7, 2023
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General Support / by DamagedDad89
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 February 8th, 2023
...See more Does anyone have any good recommendations on battling severe insecurity and self esteem issues
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Help please :(
Relationship Stress / by DamagedDad89
Last post
 January 31st, 2023
...See more I know this is probably something everyone goes through when their spouse leaves them for someone else, but is there a point where I should be concerned about how sad this is making me. Like I feel horrible about myself for being so pathetic but damn. Marriage meant a lot to me. There’s a reason I chose to marry this woman. It’s been like two weeks now and I still can’t go a full day without having a meltdown.
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Relationship Stress / by DamagedDad89
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 January 25th, 2023
...See more Help me, I only have this last chance to man up but insecurity is beating me down.
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Depression Support / by DamagedDad89
Last post
 January 12th, 2023
...See more Has anyone felt like as much advice as they get, as much hope they try to have. There is certain point at which they need to just accept they most likely missed their chance at the life they desperately want because they weren’t sure they wanted it or were ready for it yet. I have managed to ruin two long term relationships now. In which I have kids with both women. I have a lot of problems showing affection so I push people away, I’m just tired of everyone’s response being you need to focus on yourself and start over. I don’t think that can happen at this point. Even if I wasn’t still desperately in love with my soon to be ex wife and wanted to move on. No woman is ever going to want to be with a man with 4 kids by two different women. I don’t blame them it’s a huge thing to take on. I feel like I have missed and ruined my chance at having the family that I never got and wanted so badly for me and my kids. I know this is a lot of rambling, I’m sorry. I’m so frustrated and lost right now.
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I’m so lost and need help.
35 & Over Community / by DamagedDad89
Last post
 January 14th, 2023
...See more I don’t know what else to do but throw up a flag and ask for help. My hope is that someone out here has been through a similar situation and can offer me some hope. I need it so badly right now. I have let insecurities and depression ruin my marriage to the most amazing woman I have ever met. I have let it drag my family into debt. It has gotten so bad that I have to go to jail over child support owed to my ex. My wife told me a week ago that she has had enough. She can’t help me, she tried so hard to pull me out of my darkness but it ended up pulling her down. Now I have to go to jail tomorrow and my wife is gone. I’m losing my home. I was trying to get custody of my kids to get them out of the bad situation they are in with my ex. I feel like I have literally FAILED life. Now I’m lost. I want to fight for my wife but she’s right. Fight for what? For her to come back to me and be miserable? I know that’s not right. She said she loves me and wants me to work on myself. But how? I want her back. She is going to see other men now and I can’t bare that thought. I just want to stand on top of my house and scream someone help me!
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