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DaniG2010
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MEN! I have a question and need your honesty!
Relationship Stress / by DaniG2010
Last post
 March 2nd, 2023
...See more Most of you men that cheated on their wives and wound up divorced , do you regret it?! Did you regret it later in life? Tell me your experiences! Share below! Looking for words of wisdom.
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Help me understand him.
Relationship Stress / by DaniG2010
Last post
 December 23rd, 2022
...See more So I’m moving on finally from my husband, but I’m left so confused by his behavior. I’m gonna try and make this long story short …. (FYI we’re separated on the verge of being divorced) * We got married in jan 2016 and supposedly he started cheating on/talking to a girl by the name of Christina the same year. He confessed about her and broke things off. * In 2019 I get pregnant and I get an *** message from her and she’s supposedly *** bc my husband didn’t tell her I was pregnant. She ends up sending me screenshots of him confessing his love, how he should’ve married her, how they should escape be together etc. * I confront him while pregnant and tell him I’m leaving him for good. He begs me back pleads says he doesn’t love her that he has a problem and NEEDS emotional support and constant validation and would never actually consider being with her. * Stupidly so, I take him back. Things never go back to the same they worsen. Come 2022 of august, I end up calling the cops on him bc BTW he’s been physically violent before and was again around this time. They take him to jail and I drop charges. * Hes basically trying to reconcile with me eveb after this happens but later on.. I find phone records showing him and Christina are talking hours upon hours. I confront him, he tries to lie and deny it but then he finally just is cold as ice and is not sorry or remorseful and admits to it. He ends up saying he just wants to be alone. * DISCLAIMER: She isn’t the only girl in 6 years of our marriage that he cheated on me with. He spoke to many and I believe some at once. I think he just happened to finally pick her. Heres the part I don’t understand and have questions on! Maybe y’all have more insight coming from an outsider perspective! * Ever since I found out about them, he treats me with complete disrespect. We have a daughter together and he’ll call me idiot, stupid, tell me I’m fake AF, etc on the FaceTime calls. * I went out one evening and the next morning he hounded me and wouldn’t stop asking me who I was with and who was there, etc * One day I’m at the gym he asks me why I’m there, how I am able to work out,, etc * The other day I’m on the phone he sees I’m happy laughing etc and PRESSES me about who I’m talking to. SO IF HES MOVED ON AND WITH THIS GIRL, why is he still treating me like he owns me?!! Why is he still acting possessive?!! I know he truly doesn’t want to go back with me, that’s not the answer. Any theories or reasons why?! Sidenote - All I can think is that he has some DEEP issues! He hates / resents me for finally calling the cops and wants me to be suffering / can’t stand for me to be happy ??? Or he’s a legit narcissist that will never be faithful to a woman bc he needs LITERAL constant validation ?!
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He cheated while I was pregnant
Relationship Stress / by DaniG2010
Last post
 December 3rd, 2022
...See more We are only separated. The girl contacted me on *** and than we exchanged numbers. I was pregnant at the time and she said she’d never speak with him again because he didn’t tell her I was pregnant. Like that makes it any better. She shouldn’t have been speaking with a married man regardless. Either way, my husband is more to blame. He begged for forgiveness and claimed he’d never actually be with her for XYZ reason. I ended up staying and our baby girl is 2 yrs old. Long story short, the toxicity of our relationship just kept growing because not only had he cheated on me with her, but he had already cheated countless times before and STILL did it again, while our newborn was only 2-3 weeks old. After that happened, he took away all the love away. But I felt stuck because he pleaded for forgiveness again and my pride didn’t allow me to have a public separation / eventual divorce. Just a few days ago, I found out he was speaking with her again and now he’s finally said he wants to be left alone. Our 2 yr old daughter stays with me mostly and I was going to give it one final chance so our daughter could grow up with both her blood father and mother. Now that I know it’s over, it’s hard to accept but what hurts the most is that he went back to HER. It could’ve been a randomn girl but it just proved he’d been lying the WHOLE time. He was physically abusive too and ofc verbally, always put me down in front of his friends his family my own family and they all recckognjzed it. His own sister said I will be better off alone that I really will. But I wanted to make sacrifices for my daughter. I don’t want to do custody and now be with her ever. This is the hardest part. SIGH. it’s just hard to accept this is my life. It’s surreal. :(
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