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...See more How do you tell a friend who is sensitive and has mental issues that them always talking to you about their mental issues is draining you, and drains you fast? They keep asking me if they are too much but I don't have a heart to say "yes, you are. You need to stop always talking about your issues/insecurities to your friends and romantic partner because it's honestly a LOT and the average person can't deal/ isn't trained to handle all this and you need to seek a counselor/therapist" I know I sound like a bad friend but it really is draining. I'm dealing with my own shit but I don't go about telling her how sad/miserable I am in ALL of our conversations. And she has had an ex-tell her recently that the reason he broke it off with her is because of her always talking about her insecurities, and always needing reassurance. It's like in the episode of Sex and the City, when Carrie visits Miranda with bagels to cheer her up only to talk about her issues with Big. My friend self-harms and has told me "what should I do? Just kill myself?" So it feels like walking on eggshells with her when I talk to her. She hates it when I suggest/tell her to try out therapy or counseling and gets into defence mode where she says "why do I have to pay someone to tell them how fucked up my mind is? Why do I have go deal with that? Why can't I just have someone I can go to when I'm feeling down? It's not fair!" What can I do? When she goes off it's like I'm dealing with a child.

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