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GentleMom |
Listener - Supporter 5

Listener Rating
5.0 star rating

Are you over 35 and wondering what's next...or even what's left?  I love supporting others as they explore what's ABSOLUTELY POSSIBLE at their age!  As someone who married after 30, had kids and went to grad school and started songwriting, recording, and performing again after 40 and 50...I know what it's like to face a big birthday thinking: "I guess IT will never happen."  (I was SURE that IT wouldn't!!) I

f this is you and you'd like a 1-1 let me know...or maybe we'll meet in the 35+ chat room. (But there's almost always a way to have the essence of what you you dream of...  I've been discovering amazing "second act" finders...people in my family and elsewhere who found a way to live their dreams.)  

I'm a trained active listener (with a masters in counseling...but here on 7cups as an active listener rather than a counselor) who's been well-tenderized by life but is curious and hopeful about the future, yours as well as mine. I've been married 30+ years (took a lot of time and tears to find the right love!) and have two young adult sons (one is transgender, FTM, and gay. And married.) As a family, we've faced challenges like depression and bullying but we stay close and love to develop and play games. My work has included being a pro songwriter, editor, and ESL teacher but I am moving toward coaching and writing. 

I have lived on both US coasts and in Japan and enjoy talking with people from everywhere, even if English isn't your first language. And having lived in San Francisco, I'm rarely shocked by anything people say or do...

Number of Ratings: 31
Number of Reviews: 13
Listens to Over 18
Languages English
Listener Since Jan 7, 2015
Last Active over 6 months ago
Gender Female
Progress Path Step 237
Cheers 13,564
People Helped 47
Chats 224
Group Support Chats 3
Listener Group Chats 5
Forum Posts 66
Forum Upvotes 214
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Feedback & Reviews
Always helpful and very insightful, thank you!
Excellent Listener!
You ask great questions. Thank you.
GentleMom was honestly so great to talk to - she was just the ear I needed to listen to me! She didn't give advice, of course, but she challenged me with questions that made me critically think about the situation at hand instead of falling into a pit of "life sucks so I might as well suck too."
Thank you, Gentlemom, from the bottom of my heart.
I found her talk extremely helpful and she gave me wonderful feedback and insight on how to better myself and have a positive future :)
A kind, supporting and understanding person. Made my day much more better.
Had a session with GentleMom, which was my second. She asked pertinent questions regarding an issue I am still working through and asked about goals I have for resolving the conflicts I have been working on. GentleMom is a GREAT listener with a wonderful sense of humor, which I appreciate. She is helping me focus toward an outcome that works for me instead of me being stuck in an old 'story' that doesn't work for me. Her questions helped me see a different perspective on the situations I am dealing with, which is helping me form some outcomes that will help me in the long term. GentleMom is a wonderful listener who will cut to the chase. I highly recommend her!
Found GentleMom when my previous listener became unavailable to help me with a difficult family member issue we planned to work through before an upcoming family event. Sent a message on Monday to schedule a chat/session, and got a response later that day. We scheduled a chat time, which took place today. GentleMom is a good listener and offered some perspectives about the difficult family member that had not occurred to me, which was helpful. She is also funny which I appreciate! GentleMom provided wonderful feedback, is supportive of my path toward well being and noted that there are many people who do not even begin the hard work of self care/personal fulfillment, which I found encouraging. I highly recommend working with GentleMom!
GentleMom was fantastic. I felt listened to and understood. I walked away feeling uplifted, hopeful, and with a new perspective.
Great listener. Listened to me ramble on, and didn't judge at all. I feel much better for having chatted with her, and she helped me consider things that I hadn't before. A great help in this trek to figure out where I'm at.
Amazing at listening, I would definitely recommend her to anyone :)
I really enjoyed my time, this listener is absouletly amazing, she is a star.
Although my problem isn't serious ,she Still taking it very seriously and listen in every single thing I said and actually we solve it together! I hope we can continue with this friendly relationship. (Although we just know each other)hehehe


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Questions Answered
Is depression linked to anxiety in any way?
June 17th, 2015 2:11pm
Why is it so hard for adults to understand why teens and children don't involve them when they are being bullied?
May 14th, 2015 3:27pm
What's the best way to get over relatives who are completely against it or ignore the fact that you might be gay?
January 20th, 2015 2:01pm
What are some good things to have in place before coming out to your parents that might not be accepting?
January 9th, 2015 3:14am
How can I meet other LGBTQ people in a small and conservative town?
January 20th, 2015 2:10pm
What's the best way to react to extended family's questions once you've come out?
January 18th, 2015 6:52pm
How do I stop second guessing my identity?
June 9th, 2015 9:58pm
Is it ok to not want to come out right now?
May 11th, 2015 3:05am
How can I tell my parents that I'm gay?
June 21st, 2015 6:01pm
I am terrified my child will grow up with the same traumas that I suffered - how, on a very limited income, well below the poverty line, can I assure my child gets the most positive life experience?
May 15th, 2015 6:51am
As a new step parent, I struggle with matching my parenting style to my spouse's. How do you do that, especially if your styles are very different?
June 15th, 2015 9:10pm
When I'm angry, why do I always feel the need to hurt myself?
June 24th, 2015 12:57pm
How can I tell my parents that I self-harm without them freaking out?
January 13th, 2015 6:34pm
Why do I feel so alone even though lots of people feel the same way?
January 19th, 2015 8:23pm
What are some ways to help get over a breakup?
June 17th, 2015 4:03am
How do I learn to engage with people again after years of isolated drinking and using?
June 9th, 2015 10:05pm
When do i get to stop making everyone else happy?
January 20th, 2015 1:51pm
How do you deal with a parent who never told you about a miscarriage of a sibling before you were born? Do you approach it?
March 22nd, 2015 6:49pm
What's the best way to cope with family members who will not accept your sexual orientation?
May 11th, 2015 3:10am
It is normal to not be able to remember much detail at all from an incident that happened? Why does this happen?
January 20th, 2015 1:58pm
What's the best way to stop chronic diarrhea?
June 15th, 2015 8:53pm