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IWanderedLonelyAsACloud
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Relationship Stress / by IWanderedLonelyAsACloud
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 January 21st, 2022
...See more I've never been in this kind of situation ever before in my life. I'm a 37-year-old woman, no kids but all my life I really wanted to get married and have children. I was engaged before and lived with my ex-fiance but I ended that relationship in October 2019 due to his developing drug addiction. Since then I've been doing a lot of dating and seeing people but I just didn't find anyone I had good connection with or who wanted kids and marriage. I'm a member of another advice forum and I've been on that forum for eight years and always giving a lot of advice. In April last year a new user joined the forum and was giving a lot of advice as well. I didn't know anything about this person except it was a man. It was really weird but I began to get a "crush" on him from what he was writing. The feeling was obviously mutual because he private messaged me on the forum. Later he said he felt really drawn to me from what I was writing too. It turned out we're the same age and we showed each other our social media and found each other attractive. I'm from Eastern Europe originally but moved to Australia as a 13-year-old. This guy is also from Eastern Europe but not the same country as me and we don't speak the same language (but similar language). Anyway we added each other on whatsapp and we've been talking to each other nearly every day for a few months. We've video called a lot too and watch movies and shows virtually and play online games. He's from a pretty small town and he really wants to get married and have a family too. All his siblings and friends are basically married and have kids but he said he just hadn't found the right person yet. I know this is really weird but I just feel such a strong connection with him. I was always very cynical about online relationships and even online dating apps and things like that. I've had a few serious relationships but they were all people I met in real life. This guy said he's open to moving to Australia for me if we meet and it goes well. He said all his friends are encouraging him to meet me. He's trying to find a second job to start saving money to be able to meet me somewhere halfway. We've both said that we really really like each other and care for each other. The thing is, I'm starting to feel really upset because I think I love him and I really want to be with him in real life. I don't want to just talk online and video calls but I'm not sure when we can actually see each other. I even tried dating another guy, who I liked but I just didn't feel the sane about him as I do about this guy. I'm not normally like this, I never wanted to have any online relationship. I just feel such a strong connection with him that I haven't felt for a long time. But at the same time I feel stupid because we've never met in real life.
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