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Jocy1697
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Relationship Stress / by Jocy1697
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 September 10th, 2019
...See more Ive been in this relationship for 4 years and been married for 1. I know I love him but I feel like our relationship is falling apart. I feel that the only reason why its lasted is because Ive kept it going. Ive always tried to fix our problems and tried to talk it out. He doesnt even like to communicate and Ive told him communication in a marriage is very important but he could care less. I have a beautiful 4 month old baby and he doesnt help me out with her I have to be asking him to carry her and even when hes with her hes on his phone looking for things to buy or on social media, he doesnt give her his full attention. The worst part that breaks my heart is that shes so in love with him. I guess its my fault for ignoring all the red flags since the beginning but The best thing out of this has been my daughter. I hate the fact that Im very considerate of him but Hes not the same with me. Im considering getting a divorce but he tells me that as soon as I file for divorce hes going to start looking for someone else and it hurts me so much, because I would hate to see him with someone else. Even though I have realized how he is and how hes manipulated and treated me I still love him and its so hard for me to let him go. Hes the first man Ive ever been with, lived together with and Im afraid of letting him go. Im 22 years old Ive been with him since 18. Hes 29 and he also has two daughters in another country who he sends money to every month, meaning he had a life before me whereas i started mine with him and maybe I feel like this is why its so hard for me. Every time I try to explain my feelings to him he shuts me down or he trys to play the victim or do that reverse psychology thing on me and I hate it. I just want to start a new life with my daughter but Im afraid of what will happen as soon as I file for divorce. Im afraid of the loneliness I will feel or of seeing him with someone else. I mean Im also doing this for my baby because I know the older she gets the more attached she will become and I dont want her to be in a household where there is fighting and bad vibes every day.
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