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Number of ratings188 Number of reviews64 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish Listener sinceJul 14, 2015 Last activein last week GenderMale PathStep 1,604 People helped408 Chats7,791 Group support chats674 Listener group chats253 Forum posts200 Forum upvotes462

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Hello! Welcome to 7 Cups of tea. My name is Joe. if you would like someone to listen to you, someone to talk to, or some company , feel free to contact me. I enjoy the company of others and i will try to help you the best i can. If I'm online, then please feel free to start a chat. If I'm offline, then send me a message and we can set up a time to connect. Glad you are here!

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Words on Loving Kindness

Mindfulness Center / by Joe7cups

3 days ago

...See more I read the following teaching by The Buddha and thought to myself, what the world would be like if we were all “skilled in goodness”. So I wanted to post this so at least we have some instructions from an enlightened human being. I am not a Buddhist but the more I read about Buddhism, the more I want to know. I’m sending you this with unconditional love. The Buddha's Words on Loving-Kindness translated from the Pali by The Amaravati Sangha This is what should be done By one who is skilled in goodness, And who knows the path of peace: Let them be able and upright, Straightforward and gentle in speech, Humble and not conceited, Contented and easily satisfied, Unburdened with duties and frugal in their ways. Peaceful and calm and wise and skillful, Not proud or demanding in nature. Let them not do the slightest thing That the wise would later reprove. Wishing: In gladness and in safety, May all beings be at ease. Whatever living beings there may be; Whether they are weak or strong, omitting none, The great or the mighty, medium, short or small, The seen and the unseen, Those living near and far away, Those born and to-be-born — May all beings be at ease! Let none deceive another, Or despise any being in any state. Let none through anger or ill-will Wish harm upon another. Even as a mother protects with her life Her child, her only child, So with a boundless heart Should one cherish all living beings; Radiating kindness over the entire world: Spreading upwards to the skies, And downwards to the depths; Outwards and unbounded, Freed from hatred and ill-will. Whether standing or walking, seated or lying down Free from drowsiness, One should sustain this recollection. This is said to be the sublime abiding. By not holding to fixed views, The pure-hearted one, having clarity of vision, Being freed from all sense desires, Is not born again into this world.

Messages from The Buddha

Mindfulness Center / by Joe7cups

August 11th

...See more 5 POWERFUL THINGS TO PRACTICE IN 2026 1. Let it go. When someone triggers you, pause instead of reacting. Triggers are mirrors—they reveal where healing is still needed within you. Holding on only disturbs your peace; letting go sets you free. 2. Accept what is. Resisting reality creates suffering. The Buddha taught that peace begins the moment you stop arguing with what already exists. Start where you are, with what you have—that’s where real change begins. 3. Let them. If they want to leave, let them. If they choose chaos, let them. You are not here to control others—you are here to master yourself. 𝖥𝗋𝖾𝖾𝖽𝗈𝗆 𝖻𝖾𝗀𝗂𝗇𝗌 𝗐𝗁𝖾𝗇 𝗒𝗈𝗎 𝗌𝗍𝗈𝗉 𝗂𝗇𝗍𝖾𝗋𝖿𝖾𝗋𝗂𝗇𝗀 𝗐𝗂𝗍𝗁 𝖾𝗏𝖾𝗋𝗒𝗈𝗇𝖾 𝖾𝗅𝗌𝖾’𝗌 𝗃𝗈𝗎𝗋𝗇𝖾𝗒. 4. Trust in timing. 𝖭𝗈𝗍 𝖾𝗏𝖾𝗋𝗒𝗍𝗁𝗂𝗇𝗀 𝗎𝗇𝖿𝗈𝗅𝖽𝗌 𝗐𝗁𝖾𝗇 𝗒𝗈𝗎 𝗐𝖺𝗇𝗍 𝗂𝗍 𝗍𝗈—𝖻𝗎𝗍 𝗈𝖿𝗍𝖾𝗇 𝖾𝗑𝖺𝖼𝗍𝗅𝗒 𝗐𝗁𝖾𝗇 𝗒𝗈𝗎 𝗇𝖾𝖾𝖽 𝗂𝗍. 𝖣𝖾𝗅𝖺𝗒𝗌 𝖺𝗋𝖾 𝗇𝗈𝗍 𝖽𝖾𝗇𝗂𝖺𝗅𝗌. Life has a rhythm, and forcing it only creates frustration. Trust the process. 5. Look for glimmers. Glimmers are small moments of peace, joy, or beauty—a smile, a breeze, a quiet moment. While triggers pull you down, glimmers lift you up. The more you notice them, the more your mind learns to rest in gratitude. You don’t need a complete life overhaul… just a shift in how you respond to life. Practice these daily… and watch your inner world transform

Subconscious Behaviours keeping you from having the life you want

Mindfulness Center / by Joe7cups

June 4th

...See more From an essay included in the book “101 essays that will change the way you think” by Brianna Wiest Subconscious Behaviours keeping you from having the life you want (excerpt) Every generation has a “monoculture” of sorts, a governing pattern or system of beliefs that people unconsciously accept as “truth.” It’s easy to identify the monoculture of Germany in the 1930s or America in 1776. It’s clear what people at those times, in those places, accepted to be “good” and “true” even when in reality, that was certainly not always the case. The objectivity required to see the effects of present monoculture is very difficult to develop. Once you have so deeply accepted an idea as “truth” it doesn’t register as “cultural” or “subjective” anymore. So much of our inner turmoil is the result of conducting a life we don’t inherently desire, only because we have accepted an inner narrative of “normal” and “ideal” without ever realizing. The fundamentals of any given monoculture tend to surround what we should be living for (nation, religion, self, etc.) and there are a number of ways in which our current system has us shooting ourselves in the feet as we try to step forward. Here, 8 of the most pervasive. 01. You believe that creating your best life is a matter of deciding what you want and then going after it, but in reality, you are psychologically incapable1 of being able to predict what will make you happy.Your brain can only perceive what it’s known, so when you choose what you want for the future, you’re actually just recreating a solution or an ideal of the past. When things don’t work out the way you want them to, you think you’ve failed only because you didn’t re-create something you perceived as desirable. In reality, you likely created something better, but foreign, and your brain misinterpreted it as “bad” because of that. (Moral of the story: Living in the moment isn’t a lofty ideal reserved for the Zen and enlightened; it’s the only way to live a life that isn’t infiltrated with illusions. It’s the only thing your brain can actually comprehend.) 02. You extrapolate the present moment because you believe that success is somewhere you “arrive, ” so you are constantly trying to take a snapshot of your life and see if you can be happy yet. You convince yourself that any given moment is representative of your life as a whole. Because we’re wired to believe that success is somewhere we get to—when goals are accomplished and things are completed—we’re constantly measuring our present moments by how “finished” they are, how good the story sounds, how someone else would judge the elevator speech. We find ourselves thinking: “Is this all there is?” because we forget that everything is transitory, and no one single instance can summarize the whole. There is nowhere to “arrive” to. The only thing you’re rushing toward is death. Accomplishing goals is not success. How much you expand in the process is. 03. You assume that when it comes to following your “gut instincts,”happiness is “good” and fear and pain are “bad. ”When you consider doing something that you truly love and are invested in, you are going to feel an influx of fear and pain, mostly because it will involve being vulnerable. Bad feelings should not always be interpreted as deterrents. They are also indicators that you are doing something frightening and worthwhile. Not wanting to do something would make you feel indifferent about it. Fear = interest. 04. You needlessly create problems and crises in your life because you’re afraid of actually living it.The pattern of unnecessarily creating crises in your life is actually an avoidance technique. It distracts you from actually having to be vulnerable or held accountable for whatever it is you’re afraid of. You’re never upset for the reason you think you are: At the core of your desire to create a problem is simply the fear of being who you are and living the life you want. 05. You think that to change your beliefs, you have to adopt a new line of thinking, rather than seek experiences that make that thinking self-evident. A belief is what you know to be true because experience has made it. evident to you. If you want to change your life, change your beliefs. If you want to change your beliefs, go out and have experiences that make them real to you. Not the opposite way around. 06. You think “problems” are roadblocks to achieving what you want, when in reality they are pathways. Marcus Aurelius sums this up well: “The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way. ” Simply, running into a “problem” forces you to take action to resolve it. That action will inevitably lead you to think differently, behave differently, and choose differently. The “problem” becomes a catalyst for you to actualize the life you always wanted. It pushes you from your comfort zone, that’s all. 07. You think your past defines you, and worse, you think that it is an unchangeable reality, when really, your perception of it changes as you do. Because experience is always multi-dimensional, there are a variety of memories, experiences, feelings, “gists” you can choose to recall…and what you choose is indicative of your present state of mind. So many people get caught up in allowing the past to define them or haunt them simply because they have not evolved to the place of seeing how the past did not prevent them from achieving the life they want, it facilitated it. This doesn’t mean to disregard or gloss over painful or traumatic events, but simply to be able to recall them with acceptance and to be able to place them in the storyline of your personal evolution. 08. You try to change other people, situations, and things (or you just complain/get upset about them) when anger = self-recognition. Most negative emotional reactions are you identifying a disassociated aspect of yourself. Your “shadow selves” are the parts of you that at some point you were conditioned to believe were “not okay,” so you suppressed them and have done everything in your power not to acknowledge them. You don’t actually dislike these parts of yourself, though. So when you see somebody else displaying one of these traits, it’s infuriating, not because you inherently dislike it, but because you have to fight your desire to fully integrate it into your whole consciousness. The things you love about others are the things you love about yourself. The things you hate about others are the things you cannot see in yourself. 1 Gilbert, Daniel. Stumbling on Happiness. 2007. Random House

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Listens so well and really helped me during tough times

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Calm and understanding

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the most awesome person--so good to talk with--very nice person all the way around

What a human! He is so pure and genuine that he only brings the best out of you. So easy to talk to..he is full of positivity. He is also a fighter and with his kindness and bright spirit, cherishes the world. Thank you Joe. 😊

Patient & amazing listener. I’m lucky to have found Joe

Joe is a wonderful human being, warm and caring. I hold him in very high regard. I’m certain he would be an honest and sincere listener to any in need just as he was for me. He’s a true gem. Thank you, Joe, and God bless you, yours and your endeavors.

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He is such a beautiful soul, was so kind and caring. Would recommend😇💙

Joe is such a sensitive listener. Felt like talking to a long-term friend. Keep up the good work! Hope you have people who listen to you as well as you listen here! Big appreciation for your kindness!

Very wise and thoughtful person, thank you Joe7cups. You were a nice listener. One of the empathetic listener I've ever encountered. God bless you

A beautiful and caring soul. Glad to count Joe as a friend.

He seems really personable and asks great questions. I feel listened to

INCREDIBLE listener!!!

Loved it. He is a great listener and I felt comfort in talking to him. I appreciate you!

Great listener!

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Joe is an excellent listener. Very compassionate and empathetic to my problems, he is a very good communicator and he checks in on me often. He is my favorite listener on here so far, he's a very sweet soul. Give him a try and see him work his magic

One of the best listeners I've gotten over the years, they helped me recover from an overall bad day. Thank you!

Great person and listener. Very patient, supportive and reassuring. Glad to have met this beautiful soul here

a very kind person

Very good listener and accommodative and supportive.

The most kind person ever and the most clever !

Joe is a lovely listener with a large heart and reasonable response time which settled me in wake of my issue.

Joe had really thoughtful responses and I felt way better after we were done chatting. Thanks Joe!

Great guy

wonderful person

he constantly checked in with me, and it was super great!! bless your heart

Helpful

joe is truly a kind and wonderful person with amazing empathy and listening skills. he didnt dismiss my problems at all, and he really comforted me and helped me through them. this is the best experience I have had on 7cups by far.

he is very kind, and give all the time to hear you, he is empathize

Thanks for chat help.

Joe has and is being amazing, he is a valuable member to the 7 cups community and I will honestly say I don't think I'll talk to another listener. We connected straight away and was even awake at the 4am time zone difference to chat with me, he is kind, considerate and gives tips and challenges to do for when you talk next. He is great. I do recommend.

non judgemental and I expressed what I have not been able to for a while- Ciara

Joe is an amazing listener

Joe is a wonderful listener who has helped me through some very difficult times.

Joe is the best listener I've ever spoken with.

Joe is the kindest listener and really understands my pain. He is the best listener I have ever had.

Joe is the kindest listener here

I came to 7cups feeling nervous and shook up, and after speaking with Joe7cups, I felt so much more calmness. Such a kind listener who is very genuine in helping others and very empathetic! I will likely seek this listener out in the future :) thank you!

Response time is lightning fast. And it's so easy to talk to him, it's like talking to an old friend. He's understanding and calming & made me feel more in control of myself when I thought I was losing it. I'm glad I found him and I highly recommend him as a listener - he's great!

he was very nice, helped me a lot :)

Best listener you can fine

Best listener you can ask for was there every step off the way with me though the hard times off loosing my son. :) best guy you can ask for.

It's like we are really family!

he is a nice guy

great guy

such a easy going conversation, thank you.

Nice guy to chat too.. My first listener when i got here on 7 cups

Joe is either an experienced Listener or a natural. I haven't stalked him to find out because it doesn't matter. Everything I could say now would just be a reflection of my ratings, which I stand by.

If I was pressed the only things I could add are that he's also very accessible, perceptive, and asks damn good questions.

Five stars all through.

Good first responder. Good balance between an open ear and actually giving practical advice. Would recommend.

Thank you so much for being willing to listen.

Very empathetic. This is the listener you want to go to if you need help

Helped me through one of the toughest spots I was going through; you're not going to find a better human than this guy right here, I'd say. Really helped me out.

An angel. ♥

I have been speaking with him for 10 minutes and i feel I already found a friend. :-)

good

It's going great, I'm talking to him now