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K3ls4ur
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Old wounds reopened
Relationship Stress / by K3ls4ur
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 November 16th, 2025
...See more I guess I’ll just cut straight to it. It’s going to be kind of long, so if you read it all I appreciate you. My husband and I haven’t really been super happy for a bit. We get along, we enjoy each other, but it’s just going through the motions. Well a few years ago he relapsed into addiction and cheated on me for months. He all but abandoned me after having our baby and breaking my ankle. I was so miserable. And when I found out about the cheating I had a psychotic breakdown for a bit. It was bad. I went through a lot of therapy and we did couples counseling and mostly got past it. I’ve been over it for a while. To the point where I can even see the girl now and just laugh rather than getting mad. Today he told me he stole my phone while I was sleeping and went through my hidden photos. I thought that was strange but whatever I don’t have anything to hide. I figured he was upset because I never deleted the proof of him cheating. I deleted all the screenshots and anything that wasn’t helpful to us. He finally confronted me and told me he was upset over a message I sent to someone while we were separated that was saved there. I didn’t even realize it was saved and I deleted it before he even said anything coz I didn’t care about it. But all of the sudden he decided it needed to be a problem. It wouldn’t be as bad if this was a one time thing. But he’s constantly being moody without communicating. He always looking for reasons to target me. Everything comes back to me in his mind. I ask the bare minimum. I take care of the house, I take care of the kids, I cook, I clean, I do his laundry and dishes, I do everything. All I ask for is respect. But he has to wait until all the kids are around to target me and make a problem out of nothing rather than listening to me. All the feelings of feeling like my effort wasn’t matched never have gone away from before when things were really bad. But when things like this happen, I go right back to that place of feeling like a worthless being that can’t do anything right. I feel the spiral starting and I think I want to leave so my kids don’t have to see this ever again. My daughters are pre teens and I really want them to see how a relationship should be. I don’t know what to do. Or maybe I do and I just don’t know how. Either way I feel hopeless and like I’m failing someone no matter which way I turn.
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