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...See more My wife and I have been married for 8 years now. We don’t have a normal marriage in the sense that we have a kind of open marriage. But of course, we have had boundaries and rules. The rules are pretty simple: If either of us feel uncomfortable with someone, we end it immediately. We never hide things. And we don’t do anything without each other’s permission. 3 weeks ago I caught her deleting texts from 2 different guys she works with. When I confronted her about it, she gave a bs excuse saying they said inappropriate things that I wouldn’t like and she told them to stop but she thought I would be mad and deleted them…..well I didn’t buy that. So I threatened to get a polygraph done so that it could put my mind at ease. After 2 weeks of her slowly releasing bits of information, once she realized the polygraph was happening, she admitted to cheating on me 4 times with 4 different guys in the last 4 years. 3 of them within the last 2 months. And all of them were coworkers. She claims that she was just selfish and nothing I did or anything about our marriage caused her to do this. So I am at a loss on what to do. I love her, but I can’t be treated this way. She claims she wants to work on things and save our marriage but how do I forgive her? I’m so lost and hurt….

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