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Kyoshi

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Number of ratings123 Number of reviews45 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish Listener sinceAug 14, 2015 Last activein last week GenderNon-Binary PathStep 701 People helped261 Chats2,921 Group support chats1,481 Listener group chats2,667 Forum posts180 Forum upvotes456

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Open to new members (also long term)

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𝓐𝓵𝓵 𝔂𝓸𝓾 𝓷𝓮𝓮𝓭 𝓲𝓼 𝓯𝓪𝓲𝓽𝓱,

𝓽𝓻𝓾𝓼𝓽 𝓪𝓷𝓭 𝓪 𝓵𝓲𝓽𝓽𝓵𝓮 𝓫𝓲𝓽 𝓸𝓯

𝓹𝓲𝔁𝓲𝓮 𝓭𝓾𝓼𝓽

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I don’t have to be an expert I just have to care

About me:

Hello there! I'm Kyoshi (Kyo), my pronouns are they/them. I'm 25 years old and passionate about mental health. I strongly believe in self reflecting and growth because there is always space for improvement.

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Boundaries are an important aspect of listening, not just for me but also for you as member.

During our chats you will experience;

- A safe space for you to vent and share; our chat is your safe space to talk about anything on your mind. What you share during our chats will stay in our chats.

- A non judgemental enviourment; there wont be any judgement from me during our chats.

Disclaimer: I'm not a professional, although I have knowledge on DID/OSDD and advocate for a better support system and safe place on cups for those with DID/OSDD(and questioning) I cannot provide a diagnosis, to be diagnosed with a Dissociative disorder you have to work with a professional that specializes in such cases. Thank you for understanding

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Topics I’m comfortable with

-Dissociative Disorders
Dissociation
Dissociative Identity Disorder
Other Specified Dissociative Disorder

-Trauma/PTSD
Child abuse
Sexual abuse/assault
Trafficking
Ritual abuse
Mind control
Organized abuse
Domestic violence
Religious abuse

-Family Stress
Parenting
Foster care (also for parents who have children in the system)

Also open to casual chat

note: I only provide support on the topics mentioned above as I have personal experience in those and can relate to you.

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Status

Green: I am currently online and accepting new personal requests, my response time will be within a few minutes.

Orange: I am online but occupied with other tasks on cups, either I'm already in a chat with someone or I can be found in one of the rooms. My response time can vary (5-15min)

Red: I'm currently offline and not available on cups, please leave me a message and I will come back to you in 48 hours.

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Leadership roles

-Group support mentor
I mentor specific areas to strengthen and improve specific areas in the group support chats, if you have questions regarding group support you can reach out to me

-Chatroom Moderator (global)
I help keep the rooms safe, supportive and inclusive!

-Chatroom mentor
I help keep the listener rooms supportive and inclusive and I mentor listeners on their listener journey

-Chat support
I support listeners with difficult ongoing chats and answer listener journey related questions, if you need help with anything related to listening feel free to message me

-Doorkeeper
I can open and close rooms, if you need to have a room open or closed please message me

-Safety Patrol
I flag accounts that go against site guidelines, if you find an account that needs flagging please send me a message

Helpful forum posts I have written
everything below is clickable

-Information on DID

-Differences between OSDD-1(a,b)

-Different roles in a DID/OSDD system

-Information on religious abuse

-How to support someone who experienced religious abuse

-Fight and flight response

Recent forum posts

DID/OSDD discussion thread

Trauma Support / by Kyoshi

June 15th, 2023

Reactive attachment disorder (RAD)

Family & Caregivers / by Kyoshi

March 14th, 2023

...See more Reactive attachment disorder is a condition in which a child doesn't establish healthy attachments with their parent(s) or caregiver(s). RAD may develop if the child's basic needs of comfort, affection and nurturing aren't met. With the right treatment, RAD children may develop more stable and healthy relationships with caregivers and others. Treatments for RAD include learning how to create a stable, nurturing environment and providing positive child and caregiver interactions. Parent or caregiver counseling and education can help as well. Without the right treatment, RAD can continue for several years and may have lifelong consequences. These struggles can include problems with relationships, social interactions, mental and physical health, behavior, boundary issues, intellectual development, and substance abuse. Although RAD is a childhood disorder when not treated properly RAD can be taken into adulthood. Symptoms Signs and symptoms may include: * Unexplained withdrawal, fear, sadness or irritability * Sad appearance * Not seeking comfort or showing no response when comfort is given * Failure to smile * Avoiding eye contact * Watching others closely but not engaging in social interaction * Failure to reach out when picked up * No interest in playing interactive games * Behavior problems * Boundary issues * Failing to seek support or assistance symptoms taken into adulthood Signs and symptoms may include: * Detachment * Withdraw * Inability to develop and/or maintain relationships, romantic or otherwise * Inability to show affection * Resistance to giving and receiving love despite craving it * Control issues * Anger issues * Impulsivity * Sense of distrust * Inability to fully grasp emotions * Feeling of loneliness and emptiness * Lack of sense of belonging * Boundary issues On the outside, behaviors of RAD children might look like aggression, manipulation, or destruction, but at the heart of it all is deep fear. It’s important to understand that the root of it all is trauma, loss and a PTSD response. Causes To feel safe and develop trust, children need a stable and caring environment. Their basic emotional and physical needs must be consistently met by caregivers. For example, when a child cries, the need for comfort, a meal or a diaper change must be met with a shared emotional exchange that may include eye contact, smiling and caressing. A child whose needs are ignored or who is met with a lack of emotional response from caregivers does not come to expect care or comfort or form a stable attachment to caregivers. The risk of developing RAD from severe social and emotional neglect or the lack of opportunity to develop stable attachments may increase in children who, for example: * Live in a children's home or other institution * Frequently change foster homes or caregivers * Have parents who have severe mental health problems, criminal behavior or substance abuse that impairs their parenting * Have prolonged separation from parents or other caregivers due to repeated out-of-home placement, hospitalization or death of a primary caregiver

DID/OSDD Open Chats-Thursday 12pm ET (Teens)

Trauma Support / by Kyoshi

February 27th, 2022

*trigger warning* - Religious abuse and how to support someone

Trauma Support / by Kyoshi

January 15th, 2022

...See more Religious abuse is also known as spiritual abuse, religious abuse happens when someone uses religion or spiritual beliefs to hurt, control or scare someone. Religious abuse might include: · Stopping you from practicing your religious or spiritual beliefs · Forcing you to participate in religious practices that you do not want to participate in · Using religious or spiritual leaders or teachings to: 1. Force you to stay in a relationship or marriage 2. Excuse violence and abuse 3. Encourage you to accept violence and abuse 4. Stop you or your children from getting medical health care 5. Forcing or pressure you into a marriage you don’t want To read more on what religious abuse exactly is click here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaSupport_60/ChildAbuseDomesticAbuse_601/TRIGGERWARNINGReligiouschildAbuse_266210/] The most important thing to remember is that what they experienced is real. Harm done in the name of a religion is some of the most painful and confusing trauma we can experience. Shame is what people deal with who have been abused and hurt by a religious system. Breaking free from religious abuse takes courage, and the healing of religious wounds takes time, compassion, and an exploration of the truth. It is common for those who have experienced religious abuse to have symptoms of PTSD. Religious Trauma is unique and confusing. Talking to someone in a therapeutic setting can help you begin the healing process. Religious abuse recovery is done from an empowerment perspective that builds on principles of self-determination, autonomy, and freedom from tactics of gas-lighting, mind control, and manipulation. Many people experiencing abuse feel like they are alone, that people don’t understand or won’t believe them. You are not alone and there are people who will listen to you and believe you and want to support you in your healing process. There are also many professionals, such as the police, GPs, health professionals and teachers, that are able to offer advice and put you in touch with specialists. When you talk to someone who opens up about religious abuse, we usually have an impulse like offering words of wisdom or giving advice on how to leave. However, what someone experiencing and talking about trauma truly needs is someone to actively listen to them and validate their experience. Let them know that you are a safe person to trust by simply listening, keeping their confidence. Keep in mind that we do not give advice as listeners as we never know the full story and situation they are in. If an abused person is upset, it can sometimes seem like they are attacking the religion. When this happens, it's important to not get defensive. Try to focus on the feelings of the person is having such as betrayal, confusion, anger, sadness and let them know those feelings are valid (note: all feelings are valid). Religious abuse is a complex form of abuse, involving religious, physical and psychological trauma. If someone opens up to you about religious abuse, encourage them to seek help. For listeners reading this, know that you don't have to stay in a chat that is triggering or making you feel uncomfortable, sometimes its more helpful to end the chat than staying in the chat and saying the wrong things.

*trigger warning* - Religious (child) Abuse

Trauma Support / by Kyoshi

January 15th, 2022

...See more Please be aware of reading this post, the post might be extremely triggering! There are a lot of different types of abuse, some to where we might not be aware of, this includes Religious (spiritual) abuse. If this type of abuse is talked about at all, most of the examples of religious abuse refers to a religious elder or faith leader inflicting abuse on their members, usually by creating a toxic culture within the group by shaming or controlling members by using the power of their position. However religious abuse can also happen within a relationship or family. Religious abuse is not limited to a certain religion. Any person of any believe system is capable of perpetrating religious abuse. Just as anyone can be a victim of it. Signs of religious abuse between a partner includes when a partner: · ridicules or insults the other person’s religious or spiritual beliefs · prevents the other partner from practicing their religious or spiritual beliefs · uses their partner’s religious or spiritual beliefs to manipulate or shame them · forces the children to be raised in a faith that the other partner has not agreed to · uses religious texts or beliefs to minimize or rationalise abusive behaviours (such as physical, sexual, emotional abuse) Types of abuse within religious abuse: · Psychological abuse/ emotional abuse · Physical abuse · Sexual abuse · Any act by deeds or words that shame or diminish the dignity of a person · Intimidation · Controlling · Isolation · Enforced practice of religion Psychological manipulation: harm that is inflicted on a person by using the teachings of their religion. This is perpetrated by members of the same or similar faith and includes the use of a position within the religion. It’s usually directed at children and emotionally vulnerable adults and motivations behind such abuse vary. Physical abuse: Physical abuse in a religious context can take forms of beatings and neglect. Against children: Religious based abuse of children can involve using teachings to subjugate children through fear, or forcing them to have a certain religion and suppressing other perspectives, or punishing them for not “believing” Religious abuse can have a long term psychological consequences such as the victim developing phobias or long term depression. They may also experience a sense of shame that continues even after they leave the religion. A person can also be manipulated into avoiding a beneficial action (such as medical treatment) or to show certain behaviours.

Autism Spectrum Conditions/Disorders: Support Options

Autism Support / by Kyoshi

December 26th, 2021

...See more There is no “treatment” for Autism Spectrum Conditions/Disorders (ASC/Ds) alone, but there are options for associated symptoms/ problems like insomnia. Essentially, you can’t exactly “cure” or “treat” Autism. However, there are support options so that you can thrive in a neurotypical world or it can become easier in your day to day life. Image Credits: Posted on Open Clip Art. All credits to the creator. I don’t own this image. Note: We recognise that some like the puzzle piece symbol, and otherwise prefer options like the neurodiversity symbol. Here is an image combining both. Your preferences are valid. There is no single way to be “autistic” or “on the spectrum”. Each individual has unique needs, but a structured option tailored to ASCs is preferable because: * structure can be helpful for people with ASCs * non-adapted treatments like general CBT are unlikely to be beneficial unless they account for differences in ASCs Note: We are not advocating specific treatments. We are trying to provide a more objective and balanced view of options which cover a range of areas: Today we will focus on a few interventions, and will expand on others in a later post. * Social Communication Skills and Behavior: These are common targets for interventions, though some might consider options controversial because it might be distressing and potentially unethical to teach someone how to communicate/ behave in the right way or reduce “challenging behavior”. * Some do find Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) helpful, and the Mayo Clinic suggests that ABA is meant to “ help children learn new skills and generalize these skills to multiple situations through a reward-based motivation system.” * Social Skills Training to make interactions with others easier. * Speech-language therapy to make it easier to speak: it can address both spoken skills (like expressing oneself), and non-verbal communication (like using the Picture Exchange Communication System). Keep a look out for Discussions, Check Ins, Forum Posts, Games, Icebreakers, and more! Subscribe to this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/SupportPlus_205/SupportPlusLeadershipTeam_427/OfficialEventsThread_252881/1/#2722823] to hear about our latest events, or check out the Community Calendar [https://www.7cups.com/home/communityCalendar.php]! Interested in following the Support Plus sub-community? Join our Tag List [https://www.7cups.com/forum/SupportPlus_205/WelcomeIntroduceYourselfHere_270/SupportPlusOfficialTagListPost_252146/]and become a subscriber of the sub-community here [https://www.7cups.com/home/supportplus/?rid=110973508]! Want to join the Support Plus Leadership Team? Express your interest here [https://forms.gle/rvJbeBMtZDdacd9HA]! (This is not an application form, but a way to collect information so we can reach out to you accordingly ❤️!) For general feedback about the sub-community, we're all ears [https://forms.gle/3pjWHDSVe2VnMpRf7]. For all other enquiries, feel free to message jovialButterfly6752 [https://www.7cups.com/@jovialButterfly6752]. Tagging some people who might be interested based on past posts: @reddotonblack, @AuntieMymble, @sunshinegiraffe123, @amoOna97, @mobteru, @lyricalAngel70, @Treedome, @igetcha, @powderPuffMango, @funnyDog8378, @resourcefulPond1641, @RexDreamer Co-written by HealTheHealer and jovialButterfly6752. Edited by jovialButterfly6752 on December 15th, 2021 to make minor formatting changes.

Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) Pharmacological Treatment

ADHD Support / by Kyoshi

January 4th, 2022

...See more Medication is one of the most common support measures for ADHD, though there are definitely other options and each person has unique needs. Talk with your doctor about the benefits and risks of any medications. Medication is like a pair of eyeglasses. It simply helps you to tap into the potential that you already have. * Stimulants: These are typically the first line of support for ADHD. Prescribed stimulants at the appropriate dose with a doctor’s guidance help to balance levels of chemical messengers in your body called neurotransmitters. Remember that if you don’t have ADHD, these medicines will not help you. Unfortunately, people sometimes try to access these medications so they can “study better” but this is not okay. It undermines the experiences of people with ADHD and it will certainly not boost your scores. * Other medications: Non stimulants and certain antidepressants. These usually work slower than stimulants do, but these may be good options if you can’t take stimulants because of health problems or if stimulants cause side effects. Medicines are not a permanent cure for ADHD as you’re born with it and it doesn’t just “go away”, but they may help someone cope better with any challenges they face. The right medication and dose varies among individuals. It may take time to find out what's right for you. Tell your doctor about any side effects, and only take medications if prescribed by your doctor. Importantly, some people with ADHD don’t want or need medication. Taking medications or not taking them: both are fine so let’s respect each other's choices. There’s nothing wrong with it. In relation, let's not forget the neurodiversity movement - some see a positive side to their ADHD and that's valid, as is finding it disabling for example. Keep a look out for Discussions, Check Ins, Forum Posts, Games, Icebreakers, and more! Subscribe to this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/SupportPlus_205/SupportPlusLeadershipTeam_427/OfficialEventsThread_252881/1/#2722823] to hear about our latest events, or check out the Community Calenda [https://www.7cups.com/home/communityCalendar.php]r! Interested in following the Support Plus sub-community? Join our Tag List [https://www.7cups.com/forum/SupportPlus_205/WelcomeIntroduceYourselfHere_270/SupportPlusOfficialTagListPost_252146/] and become a subscriber of the sub-community here [https://www.7cups.com/home/supportplus/?rid=110973508]! Want to join the Support Plus Leadership Team? Express your interest here [https://forms.gle/rvJbeBMtZDdacd9HA]! (This is not an application form, but a way to collect information so we can reach out to you accordingly ❤️! ) For general feedback about the sub-community, we're all ears [https://forms.gle/3pjWHDSVe2VnMpRf7]. For all other enquiries, feel free to message jovialButterfly6752 [https://www.7cups.com/@jovialButterfly6752] . Tagging some people who might be interested in reading this post: @wonderfulRainbow817 @AriadneLove @azuladragon34 @calmsoulmeet @artisticCoconut81194 @GrahZeymahzin @ouiCherie Edited by jovialButterfly6752 on December 8th, 2021 to make change words and formatting slightly.

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) Psychological Therapy

OCD & Related Behaviors / by Kyoshi

January 11th, 2022

...See more OCD can be treated. The treatment recommended will depend on how much it’s affecting your life, in what ways, and for which reasons. Image Credits: Posted on Therapist Aid in an article, "OCD Treatment Overview". One of the main forms of professional support is Psychological Therapy. This often involves facing your fears and obsessive thoughts without using compulsions to alleviate emotional distress. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) with Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) are often helpful for people with OCD. This involves: * working with your therapist to break down your problems into their separate parts, such as your thoughts, physical feelings and actions * encouraging you to face your fears and have obsessive thoughts without neutralising them with compulsive behaviours; you start with situations that cause the least anxiety first, before moving on to more difficult thoughts Therapy requires effort on your part and may sound uncomfortable, but many people find that when they confront their obsessions, their symptoms eventually improve. Some people might benefit from 10 hours of therapist treatment, with exercises done at home between sessions. Others might require a longer course of treatment. Keep a look out for Discussions, Check Ins, Forum Posts, Games, Icebreakers, and more! Subscribe to this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/SupportPlus_205/SupportPlusLeadershipTeam_427/OfficialEventsThread_252881/1/#2722823] to hear about our latest events, or check out the Community Calendar [https://www.7cups.com/home/communityCalendar.php]! Interested in following the Support Plus sub-community? Join our Tag List [https://www.7cups.com/forum/SupportPlus_205/WelcomeIntroduceYourselfHere_270/SupportPlusOfficialTagListPost_252146/]and become a subscriber of the sub-community here [https://www.7cups.com/home/supportplus/?rid=110973508]! Want to join the Support Plus Leadership Team? Express your interest here [https://forms.gle/rvJbeBMtZDdacd9HA]! (This is not an application form, but a way to collect information so we can reach out to you accordingly ❤️!) For general feedback about the sub-community, we're all ears [https://forms.gle/3pjWHDSVe2VnMpRf7]. For all other enquiries, feel free to message jovialButterfly6752 [https://www.7cups.com/@jovialButterfly6752] . Tagging some people who might be interested @ouiCherie, @Greenchoice, @AuntieMymble, @wonderfulRainbow817, @KindnessPretiosus, @EowynTollers, @greenYard2803, @calmsoulmeet, @munchiegoosie, @GloriaD

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Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that its stupid.
~ Albert Einstein

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