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LavenderHere |
Listener - Virtuoso 4

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5.0 star rating

On a break till 15th July. Delayed responses, please bear with me.

*spots a nice human*
Hey there! I've dealt with a lot, and I want to let you know that if you are dealing with a lot too, you are not alone. It helps to just talk about stuff!!! Feel free to reach out and talk to someone-it helps.
For members seeking support- I'd love to talk to you sometime, please feel free to pm me or book a chat here<3 I take live chats (personal requests) when my status is green, or you can pm to do an offline chat. 

Quick note for CT guides- I have stepped down as a leader from the Care team. I'm around as a guide but if you want to ask/inform to a leader about something then please message the sweet @MelodyOfTheOcean 

Please see- I am sorry if I am unavailable while you are reading this, so please talk to another listener if you want support now. Or if you want you can drop me messages and I'll reply within 48 hours. I am here for you!

If you are an adult (listener or member) and can't PM me, you can tag me in a forum post anytime (by typing "@LavenderHere ") that way I'll get a notification and reply to you!

Please note- I am generally unavailable for casual chats. 💜  

💜💜Let's make it a happier place for everyone!!💜💜

Chats I am uncomfortable with- Self harm, a member under influence, parenting (like I'm uncomfortable talking about things from a parental point of view. If you want to talk about your parents and a messy relationship or something, that's okie with me.)
I can talk about any other topic.

Members- Please go through the first part of my bio before sending me a message/request (I've indicated till where). If that seems like a lot you can simply read the highlighted and underlined portions

I chat for not more than 45 minutes at a time. I am here to listen compassionately and without judgement. The chat will be confidential.💜💜

I am uncomfortable chatting about self harm (due to personal reasons) If you want to talk about it please contact another listener. Also if you are thinking about doing it now then please contact a crisis resource 7cups.com/crisis

I am uncomfortable talking to members who are under the influence (of alcohol or any other narcotic substance)

I am comfortable chatting with neurodiverse members and DID/OSDD systems. I do take chats about sexual assault, PTSD and LGBTQ+ issues💜💜

I do take chats on sexual health (but I am very selective here). Please don't ask me to control your urges or for any inappropriate "help". Please keep in mind that this website is for emotional support, and I would appreciate it if you can be respectful and considerate.

I may be unfamiliar with some of the topics you may want to talk about, but I can read up on them during the chat or in-between chat sessions...since sadly I can't know everything (though I wish I did). However if I didn't mention a topic, I am comfortable talking about it.

My triggers- Self-harm (and related descriptions).
(Edit- Hugs no longer trigger me, we get over triggers with time hehe)

For all members- before reaching out to chat, please check my status-
Red(offline)- I am offline and not replying. However you can still drop messages and I will get back to you later. Response time 48 hours
Green(online)- I am online, free and open to your chat requests…
Orange(Busy)- I am here but I already am talking to too many people here or busy somewhere on 7cups so I am unable to give you the attention you deserve. I recommend you to look for another listener by clicking here.... Response time 3-4 hours max. 

Note for all members

Please note that if I am in the chatrooms and my status is offline, that means I am not currently available for chatting in the PMs.(Usually it means I am about to log out soon and therefore can't chat). In that case you can send me a PM and I'll get back to you in 48h.

I do care about you a lot because you are an awesome person...I'll do my best to support you!! If I am unable to do so for any reason, please feel free to reach out to another amazing listener here. You may not be comfortable with me, and I totally respect that and want you to get the best help possible. My PMs are a safe space where you can talk about things, and I am here for you. I care for you all💜💜

I have been facing memory difficulties which are really worsening lately, so I may not always remember details about what you tell me, or sometimes I might lose track of what you are talking about. I sometimes might also miss out on tags or messages for the same reason, in which case you are very welcome to follow up with me or tag me again within 2-3 days. Please bear with me on that, and remember that I am here for you, and I am trying my best. My sincerest apologies for the same.

*💜sends lots of love for you💜*

Please note that I do not check in regularly (since I find it hard to keep track of that), so my listening style is more like you can peek in anytime you need support. Members whom I've spoken to before are welcome to drop a message when they need support as well💜. 

Important note- I am a trained listener but I am not a professional therapist so I will be unable to give you advice and/or therapy-like support. You can still drop me a message if you want to talk about what you're struggling with, I'll be here to listen to you. If you are looking for professional therapy (paid) here at 7Cups and you are an adult then please click here Unfortunately 7Cups doesn't offer therapy for teens but I hope you get the support you need and deserve.

Please note- I am unavailable for casual chats with anyone- be it listeners, members or friends due to time commitments.

If you want to talk to me, poke my PMs anytime and I'll surely get back to you!!

*💜sending comfy vibes💜*

If you are willing to live chat with me, but can't spot me online, you can schedule a chat with me by clicking here or going to https://lavenderhere.youcanbook.me Looking forward to speaking to you!

Please go through the part of my profile above this before sending me a request!


 


Some Quick resources for emergencies

Crisis link here or you can chat anonymously for crisis support here.
For Self harm urges, alternatives here
For panic attacks- here are grounding techniques, more grounding techniques, breathing exercises (Youtube or Gif) and muscle relaxation


 


 A little bit about me ;)

If you have lots of extra time, then maybe you may want to read my full bio-

You could call me Lavender but everyone just calls me Lav. Some people like to call me cool nicknames like Little Lav, Lave, Lavy, Law(?), Empa, or even Lab (short for laboratory- I love lab)- so if you are too lazy to type Lavender and are bored of Lav then you can call me all that.  

The lovely @courageousheart96 dedicated an emoji to me (I'm so honoured hehe)- the lav heart💜💜

💜💜You can use pronouns they/them for me💜💜

I am an ace (asexual) and an ally for the LGBTQ+/MOGII community.

Languages- I speak English, French (well I don't "speak" French well- bad pronunciation but I can write and chat in French) and I am trying to learn basic Korean. I also speak (but won't be chatting in) Hindi

My trigger- self harm
💜Hugs are no longer a trigger for me💜

I said a lot already so I would prefer it if you don't come up with very personal questions (and please don't ask any personal questions for a second time). Please understand that is because I love my privacy and you should love your privacy too! 

Also I run a snack-shop here at 7Cups, so there are cookies and cakes and all sorts of awesome stuff for everyone💜

As of now my primary focus is on supporting listeners on the site. Due to personal reasons it is not possible for me to be available regularly for live member support chats. I do live member chats on-and-off and I always update my bio accordingly. I am, however, always open to new members via slow pace chats.  Members are always welcome to seek support from me by exchanging offline messages with a maximum response time 48 hours from my side.

My favourite place on 7Cups is the PMland- so feel free to text me anytime and I'll surely get back to you within 48h. And my PMs are a spam-friendly space for all :) 💜💜

I generally reply to all PMs within 48 hours. If I'm on a break or unable to reply timely for any reason I'll surely add that to the top of my bio. If I did not reply within this time, it does not mean I'm angry or anything, because of memory issues or technical glitches I may sometimes miss messages. My sincerest apologies for the same. So in that case please feel free to send me another message. Also response time may be a bit delayed on weekends but I'll try to ensure it's within 48 hours. 💜


 


My roles here-

💜First and foremost- I am a verified listener which means I am someone who will try their best to listen to you. Members if you want to connect with a verified listener you can click here
💜I am a 
listener verifier, which means I can help other listeners here to get verified. So if you want to get verified, or have any queries about being verified, drop me a message! I am also a mentor leader for the VL team.
💜I am a Care team Guide here. We reach out to listeners and we are basically like a buddy you can talk to- a friendly face in the PMs.
So if you want us to reach out to a listener (yes that can be you too) please click here. I am no longer a CT leader.
💜I am a Teen Quality Star which means I can help listeners improve their listening skills. To reach out to a mentor please go to https://www.7cups.com/listener/listenerMentors.php. I am also a Listener Coach  which means I can reach out to you if you fill the Listener Coach Request form to improve listening skills.
💜I am also a Chat supporter so I can help listeners with ongoing chats when they are stuck. I can provide that immediate help in the listener rooms and if needed, PMs.
💜Peer Supporter- Dear listeners, if after a tough chat you need a safe space to talk, vent and process your emotions(related to the chat), please feel free to PM a peer supporter (me or anyone else here)
💜Teen Community Star- I am a Teen Community Star for the Relationship and Friendship Support Forum so I help build engagement and provide support in that subcommunity.
💜Chatroom moderator- I am a chatroom moderator for the Relationship Support chat room which means I help keep the room safe, supportive and inclusive, and also host there sometimes.
💜Listener Learning Discussions Host- I host listener learning discussions regularly to help listeners handle various chat topics better. 
💜Safety patrol- I flag profiles with an inappropriate username/profile picture/bio so feel free to send me such profiles.

I have attached hyperlinks so you can find out more about each of these roles. Feel free to check those out💜

Past involvement:

I was a Care Team Leader for a duration of 8 months. I used to host popup discussions in the TCR and I was a member of the group support outreach team.  I was also an assigned host for listener sharing circles, sharing circles, and teen discussions. I have completed the Quality Listening Program with Honours and a 16-week internship (without honours).


 


Shout-outs:

💜💜Meet my awesome lovely almost triplets!!💜💜
@Rose644 -An awesome angel- You are so kind and considerate. Also I love to smell your pfp lol. *hands Rose my fav book* Enjoy oldie-land at 7cups!! 
@Hope2103 - Just like your name, you are full of hope!! You were a cheerful presence on 7Cups! I miss you so much! 
Rose, Hope- I am so happy to know you and meet you here!! 

My listener buddies- I love to see you around here @Iamsidhere @listeningsarinn @sia1325 @Izzy274 @HealingBrokenWIngs @Amy @CommunityModEden @courageousheart96 @CommunityModChristine @BubblegumWings1234 @Victor04 
(Please ignore the order...also sadly I can name only a few people here- though I have met many many listeners here and they are awesome too- so proud of them all💜)


 


Hope and Music Zone

Quoting some of my favourite inspiring lyrics-
🎵"Whatever hurts you is gonna pass and you'll have learn from it when it comes back...You'll be doing better, doing better"- (Louis Tomlinson)
🎵"They say home is where the heart is, but my heart is wild and free"-(Passenger)
🎵"When I get older, I will be stronger, they'll call me freedom just like a wavin' flag," (K'naan)
🎵"Let your heart sweet heart be the compass of your soul and you should follow it wherever it may go! When it's all said and done you can walk instead of run 'cause no matter what you'll never be alone."- (Lady A)
🎵"If, all the time, it feels like only a deep darkness lies ahead...And even the moonlight has fallen asleep, Believe my friend That the sunshine, your smile is hidden somewhere in plain sight. Somewhere away from this chaos There's a fresh start." (Translated from Hindi, Aaftaab, The Local Train)
🎵"The sun goes down and it comes back up, the world has turned no matter what. Oh if it all goes wrong, darling just hold on" (Louis Tomlinson)
🎵"Though there's rain outside, it'll be warm and dry, the thunder and lightning won't hurt you now. So go to sleep, my love."- (Ed Sheeran, Sandman)

💜💜Here are some comfort songs for you💜💜
Comethru (Jeremy Zucker)
Sword from the Stone (Passenger)
Hello World (Lady A)
However it comes, wherever it goes (Passenger)
Zero o clock - 00:00 (BTS)- this link has English subtitles




A gentle reminder

I promise you can still make a beautiful life for yourself, even if you lost many years of it to abuse, mental illness or trauma💜 

For any online friends of mine who are struggling with PTSD (or trying to heal and get better from stuff like depression) and hiding in my bio- I have a sweet analogy for you. Sometimes the weather is not good- sometimes it is sunny and sometimes cloudy and rainy. Sometimes the rain is a storm that destroys everything. The storm felt never-ending and overwhelming. However the storm has calmed down, and is not scary and risky anymore. The sunlight comes back, but all you can see is the damage from the storm (post-trauma effects). The damage looks terrible but you can't look away from it. 

Here- I'll remind you- look how far you've come- you've survived the scary storm. That's amazing. There will be damage and that's totally ok. Remember you can make it through- since you survived the storms you are strong enough to slowly clean the mess and heal. That is sad as it will remind you of the storm, and the mess is huge. It takes time to clean up, but you can do this. I know you can.

And to those friends of mine whose storms aren't over yet- I see you, I hear you. I know you too are doing your very best and did nothing to deserve this. It might feel like the storm will never end- it will be here forever. But the storm will be over. One day things will get better. And after that you might have to do the post-storm cleaning (or post-traumatic healing) and that is hard, but you got this. One day you'll look back on everything and be really proud of yourself- how hard you tried and how far you've come.

If you feel like you are trying but tired, and scared and worried, I hear you. It is tiring to manage everything, and sometimes it is hard to talk about it. But if you want someone to be there for you- I am just one PM away. Come talk to me about it (or any other listener here). We are all here for you, and you can do it because you are amazing and brave.




The end of my bio;)

This bio is so long, smh so I'll stop here. Sending lots of healing beams for you, yes you amazing fairy!! You deserve love and support💜💜

Please see- I am sorry if I am unavailable while you are reading this, so please talk to another listener if you want support now. Or if you want you can drop me messages and I'll reply within 48 hours. I am here for you!! My PMs are open at all times for both members and listeners! 
If you are an adult (listener or member) and can't PM me, you can tag me in a forum post anytime (by typing "@LavenderHere ") that way I'll get a notification and reply to you!
Also random people lurking in my bio- you're welcome here (I spotted you hehe) *💜sends cookies💜*

Also before I forget-
💜💜Congratulations on reaching the end of my bio!!!💜💜
*💜special cookies for you💜*

Number of Ratings: 104
Number of Reviews: 85
Listens to Teens
Languages English, French
Listener Since Aug 24, 2020
Last Active in last week
Progress Path Step 179
Cheers 192,429
People Helped 291
Chats 1,820
Group Support Chats 716
Listener Group Chats 915
Forum Posts 1,241
Forum Upvotes 2,145
Feedback & Reviews
Amazing listener, I am so lucky to have her listen to me :D
best listener i've ever had, so supportive and such a lovely person
excellent listener, i felt understood and heard, they constantly kept texting and letting me know that they were listening, thank you so much!!
The best! So sweet!
Very caring and is a good listener
So supportive and amazing
Nice and understanding
Really sweet, patient and compassionate
Lavender is amazing! Always listens and tries to make you feel better ❤❤
Amazing listener. The conversation was amazing. Instead of trying to answer my questions for me they prompted me to figure out my own problems. They are so generous with their words I would love to talk again
Absolutely amazing. Awesome listener!! Thank you so much Lav. You helped me so much! *sends cookies*
They've helped me calm down considerably and take deep breathes when I thought I couldn't. Would absolutely recommend.
great listener amongst other things
Lav is a very awesome Listener.
I talk to Lav commonly but this was great
I love talking to lav and they just make me feel comfortable. Talking to them is really easy and fun 💛🧡❤️💚💙💜 thank you lav
They are an amazing listener! I love them so much!!
they are always there for you, it makes me feel comfortable that they stay with me and make sure i am comfortable first and then share. amazing listener
Really listened to me, I like how comfortable I felt with her and how sincere she was. I'm feeling better and hope we can chat again
amazing! That’s all I got.
You were great!
Comforting words, understands you. just perfect
Nice to talk with
extremely empathetic, good listener and it helps a lot to char with Lavender.
Listened attentively
Great listener:)
They are very thoughtful and a great listener.
she is the greatest most helpful person that i've ever talked too
they are very sweet and knows what to say, understand people coming in from different situations very well, kind soul
A really good listener
very kind, and a good close online friend
Empathetic indeed.
They were really nice to talk and helped me solve a confusing issue😩💓💓
she's so kind and considerate, it really really helped!
Helped me feel better
She's compassionate and willing to help
Very great listener, very kind as well.
she is an amazing listener , helped me feel better and motivated me
a nice person who is understanding
Great listener I really felt comforted
Amazing and really lovely. Open to talk to and easy to chat to, thank you for being here
Makes me feel heard
Very sympathetic and helpful, could not recommend more
She is a great listener as well as positive vibe from heaven
Easy to talk to
helpful and kind
very approachable and understanding
He is really good
listened to my issues, gave me advice on how i can better, related to my problems, and told me i can get through it
yeah very nice person
Great listener!
They are nice and are helping
She's a great listener and actually engages in the conversation with you. After speaking to her I felt soo much better and she's always positive 🥰 and kind💕 which I personally love🥺 and encourages 💕me to go right back to her if I have any problems..😘
terrific and considerate
very lovely , inviting and understanding . Makes you feel as though you can really open up about what is happening
very cool and chill
they were really good at asking open-ended questions!
She was really compassionate. She listened to me patiently and asked questions that didn't feel disruptive or intruding. I loved chatting with her
good listener, really sweet
Loved it! Awesome chat!
They were super kind and caring
Honest and kind listener.
So sweet and easy to talk to!
amazing, really helpful and empathetic, helped me and made me feel understood
Great listener! Keeps the conversation great and interesting, doesn't judge and just!!! The best!!!
super nice and helped me with my sexuality
So nice and she cheared me up :DD
amazing listener
really listened to what i had to say and helped me become a lot more calm in the end
Very relatable and understanding
she was a great listener
Very good listener
they were nice and they did help a lot.
Amazing, and very nice to talk to. Relatable and very helpful for an array of things. I Will definitely come to again if I nee to.
Listens really well, let's me rant as much as I want
Best listener ever!
They were lovely! They were never harsh, asked good questions, and I felt truly cared for.
Loved it! Awesome chat!
Very understanding.
Amazing chat and long time! Loved it!!!!!
Very helpful and understanding!
Really nice listener makes me feel at least a bit happier
responds quickly and very kind.
They were easy to start off with, and asked questions which made it easier to start talking
Genuinely the best person I've ever talked to
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