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Leahninhi
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A LIFE SAVING TIP (BUT ALSO FOR RELATIONSHIP ISSUES)
Relationship Stress / by Leahninhi
Last post
 June 1st, 2023
...See more ((🚨)) 💡 Yo❣️ all folks 🙋‍♀️ THIS IS A LIFE TIP THAT CAN SAVE YOU YOUR RELATIONSHIP, OR YOUR LIFE. I'LL BEGIN WITH TELLING YOU WHAT I EXPERIENCED AND WENT THROUGH. AT THE END OF THIS TEXT YOU WILL GET THE TIP❣️🙂 A few days ago I went in to the voice channel on a server on the *** app to discuss my relationship issue. As well as my sexuality (which is a bit complicated and I'm questioning). 👉 The first few people told me to break up... 🤷‍♀️ Well, then I went to an online theraphy forum that offers listeners for free and I spoke to a guy from Pakistan who was very good at just listening carefully. He made me calm down enough to be able to sort out my own thoughts and emotions instead of panicking from old experinces. 👉 His advice was to take a break from my boyfriend. Well, he made me calm and able to think clearly... ..so I was okay with any outcome instead of panicking about what pressured me... And I really felt like discussing my conclutions together with my past-few-days experince that I had felt with my boyfriend the following night. I also was calm enough to realize some things that could have played into the relationship issues and my recent change in emotions/feelings, such as that; --> I a few weeks ago had been taking hormones from birthcontrol pills, which affects me enormously and makes my emotions and hormones ruin my days as well as my sexuality. --> He for the past few weeks not had been as present and supportive as he used to be (which he also explained was due to stress, he is bipolar and easily lose control, and he has just a few months ago gone from 10 years of sickleave to full-time working). --> After the honeymoon-phase where both partners are being polite there comes a test-phase were both parts needs to work on getting past the uprising issues if they want to get to a more stable phase of the relationship. (And it seems that me and my guy have just reached the test phase.) --> I had been feeling pressured by him due to him wanting to move forward fast and wanting me to do many things in a short time-period, and I am the complete opposite personality type that always thinks things through a hundred times over a long period of time before I make any move or make any decition... Well, so I called him the night after and we spoke about all of this. Everything after that immediately felt so much lighter❣️☀️ So much so that we decided to call one another for 1 hour every night of this week until the weekend. (He is taking afternoon courses this week for his work so we can't meet until the weekend.) And you know what? I am very much looking forward to meet him again! Can't wait for the weekend to come 😃 💡 So the moral of the story is... ((🚨)) Don't go to online communities for support and just believe the first few advices that you get from random people. ((🚨)) 💡💡 Grab a listener who aren't giving much advise but who actually carefully listens to you, and who helps you ride out your stormy emotions first. And who then asks you neutral questions to help you sort out your thoughts, emotions, what has happened and make you think of your own solutions to your own issues. 💡💡💡
Respect & inform me, please!
35 & Over Community / by Leahninhi
Last post
 May 9th, 2022
...See more Hi there, Am not sure of how to put this question... How can one avoid to meet one's old friends when half of the family still are friends with them? I don't feel good when around several of my previous childhood friends and swore to myself about 3-4 years ago to always choose social situations carefully from then on. It's been more convenient now, since I more easily become exhausted (on my way of becoming burned out). Every exhaustion-period I become very debilitated and can not neither work, study nore socialize because my brain simply needs rest for several weeks up to 2 months to function normally. So, choosing people and activities wisely has become more convenient for me. One family member has made me explain again and again why I don't want to see my previous friends anymore. I don't think I need to explain myself no more. Also, it feels like another family member tries to bring me to meet my previous friends through "accidental" social gatherings and sometimes through invitations to family gatherings and accidentally forget to tell me that some of my previous friends are coming. Many times I also don't feel good when meeting my family members all at once, because of tentions in between them and also in between me and them. But they are still my family. And family means the most to me. I'm also kind of co-dependent on my family, but have tried to break loose from old patterns for several years now. It's kind of rude and inappropriate to be picky and choose who one wants to meet and not. So how can I make my family members understand that I never "accidentally" want to meet my previous friends ever again?
Abandonment, greif, rejection
Trauma Support / by Leahninhi
Last post
 April 5th, 2021
...See more Hi! How does one heal from these three emotions: Abandonment, greif, and rejection? What therapy or what methods are there to work best work with these issues? Thanks in advance!
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