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...See more My father is basically a douche bag. We never got along well and I clearly favor my mother over him. Although he "loves me". He just drains me physically. He used to be a star basketball player in high school, now those days are over. He's very overweight and has gout. He's in his mid 40s and I'm 15 turning 16 soon. He NEVER tries to actively help himself out. He claims to work out but all he uses is a resistance band. He's on his game nearly 24/7. As soon as he wakes up he's gaming, when its pass 12:00 at night? Gaming on 2k19 online. And he gets so angry, I started charging him for curse words. A dollar per word and I'm nearly close to 400 in a few months. He NEVER hears us when we call him, we gotta shout nearly 3 times. But god forbid if I don't hear him for the same reason: Headphone. It's okay when he can't hear me call him multiple times while wearing his headphones, when I'm frustrated and I have to tell him to forget it. But when I don't hear him? He acts like I did it on purpose. For example: He told me to feed my dog, but I was taking a test (I'm home schooled) and I said: "Yeah okay. When I'm done with my test." He said alright. He went to "walk her". He just lets her off the leash, so he doesn't have to walk. I finished my test and went to go throw out my trash and get some food. I start setting up my computer, forgotten my duties, and he burst in. I quote: "Feed her. This is the last time I'm telling you." He told me. Like. . . 1.) Whenever I call you and you don't hear me the first 5 times, I do get frustrated but I don't show it 2.) You are capable of feeding her as well but you tell me to do it so you can get rid of her and get on your game. 3.) All you do is sit on your SS check. He's such a hypocrite. It's funny because he says he's fine with the LGBT, but he won't acknowledge someone's identity nor orientations. Calling trans and drag queens: She-he's or He-she's. While my Panromantic-Asexual Enby self just sits there going: Wow. I once told him I was asexual, and he straight up said: No, you haven't even had- you're too young to know. Like, how do you know you won't like being bitten by a Cobra. Go try it. Maybe you'd like it. Oh, is your body telling you no without experiencing it? I told my mom everything about my identity, and she's actively trying to accept it but my father just seem pure toxic. He's always on his game ever since he got it. . . So since I was 13 or 14, I'm almost 16 and I see him in a completely new light. Before he was the: Awesome amazing dad who battled his gout and helped me with school work and was nice and accepting. Now he's just: That dude who sits on our couch playing video games 24/7. It's such a dramatic change but that's how it is now. Is our relationship near toxicity, I feel it is. Because if I had a friend like him. I would immediately cut then from my life since they do nothing except play games and be a hypocrite. Even when I do good on a test, all I get is an: Alright. Sometimes a quick high five but I got to do it in 4 seconds because if i miss it, it's back to the game for him. I understand, I'm growing up and I'm not gonna be little like how I was before but. . . I didn't expect a douche out of my father. . . Maybe I'm over reacting

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