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LostAndAlwaysConfused
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How to break up with boyfriend civilly
Relationship Stress / by LostAndAlwaysConfused
Last post
 August 26th, 2020
...See more 1200 words is not enough for me. Long story short, I need advice on how to break up civilly. My boyfriend and I met on Bumble in August '19. While we were talking, I was also talking to a half black guy. I ended up letting the half black guy take advantage of me. My boyfriend does not believe in interracial relationships and had a hey day. Keep in mind this happened before my boyfriend and I became exclusive. We never officially decided to be exclusive and just went along with it. Well now, he's still holding onto it and using it to belittle, berate, and blatantly disrespect me even though I've been trying to effectively communicate verbally my boundaries and what I expect. Due to what happened, he believes I should be thanking him for staying with me and honored he that he still sleeps with me.. So, during this time, we bought a truck under my name, combined both our phones under my plan, and signed a year lease in a new house amongst other stuff to help my credit while he helps financially. He still uses the black guy, can't get over it, and is using it against me in all aspects. How do I approach him? His birthday is this Saturday, for goodness sake. I'm not a gold digger. I'll be more that happy to sell back the things we purchased for us so that he can have it. Its some of these financial commitments that we can't just drop suddenly.
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Boyfriend has a hard time communicating with me.
Relationship Stress / by LostAndAlwaysConfused
Last post
 February 14th, 2019
...See more He's always had a hard time communicating but not as much as it has been the past 4 months. We've been dating for 2 years and 4 months. 4 months ago (November), he quit his corporate job and began investing everything into starting a company. During December (his depressive time) up until today, he's had little to big Trips to himself. These Trips would consist of him leaving to have time to himself. He says they are his personal time alone to cool off and not say things to hurt me. Okay, cool. I don't have a problem. My problem begins where these Trips turn into being gone for 3 or 4 hours straight without saying anything to me. Then they started occurring at night. He would leave at 11pm and not come back until 4am, or some time like that. Then they turned to overnight where he would leave at night and not come back until like 7am. These Trips then turned into going AWOL. The biggest one was for 72 hours straight. He didn't answer my texts or calls or even his dad's. I was freaking. Now for the past 3 nights he's been out and about. Going to places in the middle of the night without saying anything. I go to sleep alone and wake up alone not knowing where he went. All he can say is sorry and that he's trying. I'm trying so hard to understand him and to talk to me but he won't open up. I'm so lost and confused and feel like running. I can't take anymore of this. There are other factors that contribute to why I feel like I do.
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