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LotusFlower285
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Feeling hopeless and scared…
7 Cups Online Therapy / by LotusFlower285
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 June 16th, 2022
...See more Well this is my first post on here. I had an emotional affair with a man two years ago. We were friends for 15 years and in the last years it developed into an emotional attachment. It was never physical I trusted him with my life. I told him things in confidence about my other friends like a human does and after I decided our relationship needed to end I wanted to give my partner and I a chance. I started to wonder if the issues I was having with my partner were because of him and I just realized he was very toxic. When I decided to end it, he wrote to my parents how awful human being I was… to some of my co-workers, in-laws… I had to put a peace bond (aka restraining order) I am in Canada thats why its peace bonds. Then it stopped he agreed to leave me alone. For the past two years Ive felt free and got my life back. A week ago he sent me a message from a bogus FB account which he opened a website and published all the personal things Ive shared about my husband, my friends and so on… I feel such like a horrible human being and the first day I really thought if I want to get rid of this issue there is only one way that I needed to commit suicide. I have no suicidal tendencies Ive has bad thoughts but never acted on anything…. i went to my lawyer and “civil” there is not much I can do but criminally there might be. Now I went to the police and showed them all the website and they said he’s a crazy person and just out of his freaking mind…. that being said I am scared now that after they investigate and there is enough to move forward with criminal charges will he just send that site to the whole world? This will destroy my friends life and do irreparable damage… I just cant live my life in fear or him until I die someday I am 40 years old… but then if I just dont do anything is this helping? I want him to stop!! This is ridiculous and I know I did wrong had an affair but I cant for this with my life.. i know this is heavy I just dont know where to turn and I feel so alone and helpless… I just feel my life is over…
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