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No longer attracted to my spouse! Help?
LGBTQ+ / MOGII Support / by LwLove
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 December 26th, 2020
...See more Hello. I'm new here and I've been searching for a safe space as an outlet to share my feelings without judgement. Not sure if that will happen but here goes anyway. I met my now wife 10 years ago. The is is going to sound like every cliche I've ever heard but I find it's now my reality...at first everything was great. She was physically my type and also had the personality I'd always wanted in a partner. Our sex life was better than great. That lasted a while too. But over the last few years she has developed habits that she didn't have when we met. She has gained quite a bit of weight (before anyone calls me shallow I was also overweight and have lost over 100 lbs myself and have worked hard and kept it off.) and aside from that has seemed to lose interest in her physical appearance at all. I know we get comfortable with each other but I feel we should still consider our mate and keeping yourself attractive for them. She also has developed other habits like excessively passing gas and burping constantly, picking her teeth at the dinner table and other things that had she been this way I probably would never have wanted to even live with her!I have tried to be supportive, cook healthy meals, work out with her and encourage her but nothing helps. I find myself not wanting to make love anymore. And when I do I have to drink a few glasses of wine to get myself in the mood. All of this makes me feel incredibly bad! I miss feeling sexually attracted to and enjoying making love. On the other hand she has a good heart, has helped me raise my daughter since she was little and is financially stable. I would be a fool to let her go. At the same time, ive been very depress and feel hopeless that I will never experience the romance and satisfaction we had and I’ll have to live without passsion for the rest of my life. I don’t know what to do.
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