Mokie |
Listener - Scholar 8

Hi there and welcome to my profile page. Thank you for taking the time to have a look and to get to know me a little bit better. 

You've come here for a reason. You may have reached a point in your life where you realise that you may need someone to talk to, and by coming here you've made a step in the right direction. I am a verified listener and Intern here at 7 Cups. I am here to help you talk through whatever issues you may have and, hopefully, help you feel a bit better about where you are in your life. I cannot promise that I know all the answers but I can promise you a friendly voice to talk to through whatever dark times you may be facing and we can look for the lightness out of the dark together. 

Even if I cannot help you personally, I can help to find the right person for you. I'm not here to judge anyone and I'm not here to criticise. That is so not what we are here for. Even if all you need is someone to shout at, or just to have a friendly chat about nothing in particular, I'm here. If my status shows as offline, it doesn't always mean that I'm not here. More often than not, I am working away in the background, in a discussion group, or I have an appointment booked with a member. Either just leave a wee message and I promise I'll return it just as soon as I can, or you can book an appointment with me following the link below and you can schedule a time that is best for you.

 Whoever you decide to talk to, I hope it's the first step to a happier life. 

If you want to book an appointment with myself please click on the following picture and that will take you straight to my appointment list. Find a time that's best for you and I look forward to talking to you then. 

*Please remember that if you do book an appointment with myself, you must send me a message first (either after you book the appointment or at the time the appointment is due, as I cannot search members and make first contact - that is up to you.* 

Thank you for making it this far! This is the part where I am going to tell you a little bit more about myself. This way you can maybe discover if I would be the right kind of person for you to talk to. Apologies in advance if it gets a little boring from here on out. (LOL!)

Why did I become a Listener on 7 Cups?

In October 2014, I was experiencing what I can easily describe as one of the worst times of my life. I was going through so many things at once that it led to a breakdown of epic proportions. I felt like I was lost in the dark. I felt like I had no hope left. And I felt a loneliness that was so deep and so strong that I looked for a place to be able to talk to someone, anyone, and I looked to the internet for help. I cannot remember what I searched for that night, but the very first site that popped up was 7 Cups of Tea. I clicked on it and looked through the available listeners, found one I thought would be good and, without realising it, the start of the rest of my life began at that moment. 

That listener sat with me through the night, at first talking through the things that had brought me here, but soon after we were just talking like we had been old friends and that darkness that I had felt surrounding me lifted. They kept up with me over the coming days, making sure that I was ok and I genuinely believe that had it not been for this site I would still be struggling today.

After a few weeks, I began to realise that I wanted, no - scratch that, needed, to give back that same kind of help that I had received. I wanted to share that experience with other people, to let them know that even in those darkest of times there is light in this world, even if sometimes we just need someone else by our side to help find the light switch again.

So ... are you just a Listener?

Like I mentioned before I am a verified listener but there are other projects I take part in here. As of June 2016, I am now an Intern here at 7 Cups. What this means is that as I am a student, working here as a non-paid intern I can receive credit towards my academic program. I am also Peer Support as well as a Group Moderator with particular interest in Disability Support. I am also applying to become a Quality Mentor, amongst other programs that interest me.

That sounds like a lot .... why did you choose to do all that?

There are moments where I ask myself this question, but those moments pass quickly! This is for a couple of reasons. One I like to keep myself busy. Especially during the holidays between University courses. Part of it is, I just love this site so much, and what it stands for, that how could I not give something back to a place that helped me find my feet again. Another part of it is I am an introvert, I very rarely leave the house as I suffer from anxiety issues and chronic pain, so this site enables me to feel like part of a community, a community that has not once made me feel like I don't belong or unimportant. Helping people that reach out is such a great thing to help with that even with all I am getting involved with, I will never feel it is enough.

I am trying to contact you, but you are NEVER online!

This is for a few reasons. Firstly, it may be that I am not around. A lot of people I speak to are in different time zones which unfortunately can be difficult to arrange but not impossible. Secondly, I might be in a group discussion and in order to focus on all the different conversations going on, it is usually best to be offline. Thirdly, I have a booking system, where people can book time with me and, again, it is to ensure that they have my full attention. I do want to say though, even if I am showing as offline and you want to talk, send me a message anyway. If I don't reply within 10 minutes or so it's safe to assume I am either asleep or busy and I will get back to you as soon as I can. I am never usually far away though, so please do try. :)

Ok i think I may have bored you all enough by now .... this was meant to be a short getting to know me piece, not "War and Peace" haha!

Thank you for taking the time to read my profile and I hope to talk to you soon.

Much love to you and take care :)

Mokie <3