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Molzamoo
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Boyfriend likes another girl?
Relationship Stress / by Molzamoo
Last post
 March 5th, 2020
...See more My partner and I have been together 8 months now. We live together and are so perfect for each other. Recently he started a new job at a bank and for the last couple weeks I'd heard him mention a girl's name quite a bit. Because I'm a no bullshitter I asked him straight out " do you like jess more than a friend". His response was "I don't know. I'm not good at understanding my emotions and need to process it more". Those 24 hours were hard. Thinking what he was going to say. He eventually messaged back and said "you're the only one I want. I love you. I find her attractive but not sexually, it's hard to explain. We are just friends". I went to meet her last night at his friends work drinks. She's not what I expected. Quite opposite to me. Which makes me feel insecure. My concern is that he couldn't say no straight off the bat, he had to think about the answer. This scares me, it makes me feel insecure in this relationship. Where is it headed? I need help and someone to chat to. This is wracking my brain. I'm usually not the jealous type so this is breaking me.
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Relationship Stress / by Molzamoo
Last post
 April 1st, 2019
...See more I need help and guidance. Let me tell you my last 2 month story. My partner and I have been together for 5 years. The last 2 years haven't been smooth. He lost motivation and enjoyment in his work. I was weak and one night I emotionally cheated on him with a guy who was giving me more attention than him. I confessed right away I felt so guilty. We decided to go into a poly relationship. Maybe this was what I needed. I thought this would make me happy. However what I realised was I only wanted other men because I felt my relationship was lacking in something. Recently I've seen a giant change in him. He has a new job he loves, he is motivated and excited by life. I realised poly wasn't for me. And we decided to go back to monogamy after 2 months of trying poly (no sex was had by either of us to external partners). However he nearly fell in love with another woman and now is asking to be with her. I told him I couldn't handle seeing him with another woman. It would break me. We compromised and he is now friends with her. But she won't let go. I don't trust her. How do I allow myself to be okay with them being friends?. It hurts me everytime they text. How can I be this hypocritical and not trust him this much when I cheated on him? I need advice on letting him have her as a friend. I don't want to be controlling and break them up.
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