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NothingGold
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PathStep 219 Compassion hearts398 Forum posts458 Forum upvotes580 Current upvotes580 Age GroupAdult Last activeJuly, 2019 Member sinceJuly 11, 2016
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“I beg you, to have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don’t search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer.”
― Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet
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True Friends
Relationship Stress / by NothingGold
Last post
 May 23rd, 2017
...See more I've been thinking some about friendship in the last few weeks...I'm a people pleaser and all my life have done things to accomodate my friends, have been agreeable and giving and said "I don't mind" when sometimes I do. It's been making me wonder how many true friends I have...people who I can share my real opinions with, who I can even disagree with, but will still be there for me. After careful thinking, there are one or two, so maybe I don't need more than that. I also find that it takes a long time (and often a lot of work) to build those relationships. I've also been having the thought that maybe we're all selfish...basically just looking out for ourselves, and if we can develop a relationship with someone who we can get something from (and they probably get something from us in return), maybe that's all we can hope for. What are your thoughts about true friends? Do you have a few? What do you do with the people who aren't true friends, whose relationships with you are more superficial? Are they just there to get what you can from them? Are almost all relationships (other than maybe parent-child) based on selfishness?
Procrastination
Anxiety Support / by NothingGold
Last post
 January 11th
...See more Just looking for some strategies on how to deal with procrastination...for me it is related to my anxiety...just want to avoid things and wish they would go away. I have some "big" things on my plate right now (job applications and moving) and this week I have a ton of time to work on those things...but I have a really hard time getting started. I tend to waste hours of my day just randomly surfing the Internet and picking at my fingernails, and then work hard for the last hour or so of the day. I know that I feel better when I cross things off my to-do list, so maybe making a more detailed list and crossing little things off will help. How do you stop yourself from wasting time and procrastinating?
Privacy??
Safety & Knowledge at 7 Cups / by NothingGold
Last post
 August 12th, 2016
...See more Hey everyone, I just stumbled across something. If I Google search my first name, which is my username, and 7cups, I can see my entire profile, including everything in my feed. If I add in the word depression, which is an issue for me, I can see forum posts I have made talking about some very private things. This is WITHOUT actually being logged in to 7cups. Maybe changing my username is the answer...I should have just gone with something less personal. But I'm kind of freaking out that everything I've said on 7cups, which I've thought of as a very safe place to just be me, is viewable by anyone online. Maybe I just didn't read the privacy agreement carefully enough? I found this out because I searched for something about panic attacks, and one of the first hits was a forum post by this site. I thought, that's weird, I shouldn't be able to see this if I'm not logged in. But I could. I did submit a question to the info mail address at 7cups and am looking forward to a response. Anyone else have any thoughts about this?
Changing medications - when to try
Depression Support / by NothingGold
Last post
 August 8th, 2016
...See more Hey all, Wanting to talk a little about medication changes. In the last few months, I've been having problems in my marriage, and in the last month or so things have gotten much more difficult. Along with that, my depression has gotten much more difficult to handle, and I've been dealing with some anxiety and panic as well. I have an online therapist and am starting couples therapy, and the psychiatrist who prescribes my anti-depressants is not easy for me to get to. After having perhaps the worst month I've had in a long time, I'm making the trip to see her, looking in desperation for a solution, but am not sure what to tell her. Part of me is tempted to ask for a new anti-depressant, but maybe it's my current life situation that's causing the problems, and new meds won't fix that. I'm also scared of starting on a new drug, because that's hard, and scary, and probably means more trips back to see her to figure out if things are working or not. I guess I'll just tell her all of this and see what she thinks. Maybe I'm just looking for the magic fix that will put my life right...but I know that meds are not that answer. But I sure don't feel like I'm coping well at all right now. Thoughts?
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