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PathStep 90 Compassion hearts173 Forum posts118 Forum upvotes178 Current upvotes178 Age GroupAdult Last activeMay, 2026 Member sinceJuly 8, 2017
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You can call me Chara. Sometimes I consider Lilith a better first name, but I think it would be a good middle name, along with Meadow. she/her, but they/them is okay, too.

I like art. Wish I did it more. I wish I did more music and reading and writing, too. I do play a good amount of games, but usually the same ones I'm already comfortable with, so that they're on autopilot.

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Trying to be a better person, and completely understand/crystallize my identity.
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 March 29th, 2018
...See more I'm looking for a long-term listener, but I've never actually talked to a listener at all. I still find it difficult to open up, especially without a lot of forethought about what I will say. And as much as I feel that I need to commit to something long-term, I'm still not sure if I can, but someone suggested that if I were up front about that, if a listener knows what to expect, then that wouldn't be so bad. There are a few issues I'm dealing with. I'm gender fluid, I think. It's the best way I've found to explain the confusing flip-flopping my brain goes through from day to day. (Then again, that could just be a kind of denial. I don't mind how things turn out; I just want to understand this better.) I really want a listener who understands things like this, more than anything, but for some reason, I didn't want to put it in the topic title. I have frequent depression, and some anxiety. A lot of it is related to the above, I guess. Maybe not all of it, but a significant portion. I'm trying to build self-esteem and self-worth without being or feeling selfish. I notice the pure empathy some people here are capable of, the ability to encourage perfect strangers sincerely, and I wish I had that. I wish everyone had that. I guess I believe that a fully actualized person is capable of such things. Thanks for reading, if you did. I'll be very impressed if anyone decided to try to be my listener. I've seen a lot of these that seem to go unanswered, and as tempted as I am to try and be someone's listener, I know that I really can't. It's a serious undertaking, and I don't blame anyone who doesn't feel up to it.
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