Randy1 |
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12/22/15. I have been away for several months, nursing a broken heart. i will be back, just not sure when. Please feel free to leave a message.
Hello! My name is Randy. I'm a Verified Active Listener on 7 Cups, a Peer Support, and a Group Moderator. By day I'm a counselor with ten years in recovery. I like to offer solution-focused chats to help you achieve your own goals. I look forward to building our relationship! If you just want to vent, that's fine too.
Now, for a few disclaimers: I prefer to respond to personal requests, so please feel free to message me. I would also prefer that you take a moment to create a Member account. This allows you to provide valuable feedback on our sessions, and also for us to message one another if you would like to speak with me again. A note on the term "Solution-focused" - this is a type of counseling designed for short term issues. For example, a break up, a new job, a fight with a friend. It is not really something that can be used effectively for long term issues, such as abuse, personality disorders and the like. Feel free to message me if you have questions. I get many requests for it, so I thought I would add this clarification. Be well!
Number of Ratings: 43
Number of Reviews: 21
Listens to Over 18
Languages English
Listener Since Feb 2, 2015
Last Active over 6 months ago
Gender Male
Progress Path Step 562
Cheers 34,566
People Helped 70
Chats 405
Group Support Chats 88
Listener Group Chats 98
Forum Posts 300
Forum Upvotes 700
Categories
Depression
Work Stress
Panic Attacks
Anxiety
LGBTQ+
Parenting
Self-Harm
Breakups
Alcohol/Drug Use
Family Stress
Chronic Pain
Financial Stress
ADHD
Forgiveness
Grief
Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
Social Anxiety
Student Life
PTSD/Trauma
Feedback & Reviews
Thank you
So helpful. Thank you for listening.
Awesome listener! Stayed with me for the entire hour, going through every detail of my situation and helping me get a better understanding of the roots of my addiction. He also offered interesting options for recovery which I hadn't thought about before.

10/10
A very understanding and emphatic listener
"Very Helpful. God Bless"
really understanding and helpful even with tough situations. really helped me a lot!
A great listener!
Really appreciate the time he took to listen about my crappy day. He gave really good advice. Can't thank him enough.
he helped me to understand that i was having a panic attack he is a very caring kind listener he stayed with me made me feel comfortable will come back and talk to him again
It was very helpful chat, I am feeling good, This guy has great ability to quickly understand you and your issues,
Was very helpful, and knew how to answer my questions with ease.
Excellent listener. Helped me tremendously! I will be back again!
Insightful, skilled and calls 'em like he sees 'em. I have found no better listener on this site.
Extremely helpful and understanding. A very real person who is willing to help with your problems.
What I liked the most was the professional attitude. He really helped me a lot, and I believe he could help a lot other people too!
He's very intuitive! I definitely had a few "lightbulb" moments.
Excellent individual who attempts to understand the core of the issue before responding. Would recommend to all!
thanks!
Excellent
I can't imagine how I found such an incredible person to help. He is truly an answer to prayer and has the most compassionate ears and heart I've come across!
WOW!
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Questions Answered
How do you know when it's gotten to the time where you need to reach out to people?
March 15th, 2015 8:36pm Why does depression have to be so bad at times?
March 1st, 2015 6:49pm How do I get over the loss of the love of my life?
March 16th, 2015 8:47pm I am unemployed, how can I get back on my feet?
April 9th, 2015 11:58pm What can and should one do when having a panic attack to lessen the effects of the symptoms?
April 1st, 2015 7:51pm How dangerous are the physical symptoms of a panic attack-when I have one I feel like I could die?
December 11th, 2015 6:01pm How do I calm down?
April 9th, 2015 11:56pm How can I avoid a panic attack without suppressing my emotions?
March 16th, 2015 8:24pm Can I navigate my way around this anxiety or do I have to go through it?
February 19th, 2015 3:04am How can I quit smoking? Any good ideas?
April 4th, 2015 1:03am Is me not being able to attend this event a sign that I'm a weak person?
February 16th, 2015 3:20am Why can't I just shake the anxiety off?
April 8th, 2015 3:40pm Why does telling myself "it's just anxiety" make everything feel much worse?
April 4th, 2015 1:02am How do I know whether I'm having a panic attack or just anxious?
February 23rd, 2015 12:06am How do I stop feeling so afraid of social interactions?
March 8th, 2015 4:40pm Why do I keep feeling bad when I face things which I thought I was over them ?
March 12th, 2015 7:41pm The Facebook "Seen" message gives me a lot of anxiety! When I see that the person has "seen" the message, but does not reply, I start thinking about all the possible reasons why they would 'ignore' me... Does anyone else feel this? If so, how do you cope?
April 1st, 2015 7:50pm How can I not lose my friends when coming out of the closet?
April 8th, 2015 3:45pm Why am I so scared of coming out when I know my family fully supports LGBTQ rights?
April 8th, 2015 3:49pm My daughter is struggling with her sexual identity. Any advice on how to support her?
April 8th, 2015 3:46pm What is the best way to come out to your family?
April 3rd, 2015 2:59am Is being gay or lesbian or bisexual a sin?
April 8th, 2015 3:54pm Can gay people have stable romantic relationships?
April 4th, 2015 3:52pm How will divorce affect my child?
March 12th, 2015 8:29pm My child says they are transgender, how do I cope with this?
March 12th, 2015 8:27pm I am a first time parent. How do I deal with my child's temper tantrums without losing temper myself? I am always frightened I am being judged when this happens in public.
March 12th, 2015 8:11pm What is the best way to lovingly discipline a child?
April 14th, 2015 7:30pm Why stop self harming?
March 20th, 2015 7:08pm Why is trichotillomania (hair pulling) not as addressed in the self harm community?
March 15th, 2015 8:40pm Why I can't stop self harming?
February 22nd, 2015 6:37pm Why is it so hard to stop loving the person that is not good for you?
April 10th, 2015 10:38pm Why did I waste so long in an abusive relationship? Why was I not brave enough to walk away?
February 25th, 2015 8:15pm Does it hurt more to have someone and lose them, or to never have them at all?
April 9th, 2015 11:56pm How do you feel a breakup should occur? what actions should each person take to simplify the process of seperating?
February 28th, 2015 8:57pm Who can support me through recovering from my addiction?
April 10th, 2015 10:37pm Is it normal to constantly feel an urge to be under the influence of something?
March 12th, 2015 8:13pm Why do I feel the need to drink before normal day activities?
February 2nd, 2015 9:37pm How can I find help for a drinking addiction?
April 9th, 2015 11:59pm What are some ways to help make opiate withdrawal easier?
February 5th, 2015 7:05pm Does having multiple addictions make it harder to recover?
February 5th, 2015 7:07pm How is it possible that some smokers and drinkers live up to age 70, when others die by age 25?
February 22nd, 2015 10:59pm Is it normal to not drink on the weekends while everyone else is?
February 28th, 2015 5:37am How can I help a family member who is not commited to overcoming their drug addiction without facilitating it ?
March 1st, 2015 6:51pm How come everyone else can drink as much as they want and not be an alcoholic?
March 1st, 2015 11:29pm How do I try to make my parents proud, but also take care of myself when they have such high expectations?
March 12th, 2015 8:23pm Is it my fault that my parents are on the verge of separation?
March 15th, 2015 8:38pm Why dont my parents always treat me nicely?
February 9th, 2015 3:36am How do I tell my family that they aren't helping, rather, hurting me in my recovery
April 8th, 2015 3:43pm Is it okay to distance yourself from your parents if you feel as if you're in a toxic relationship with them?
April 4th, 2015 3:51pm How should I respond when one parent speaks badly about the other?
March 25th, 2015 5:04am What do you do with 7 cup coins?
March 16th, 2015 8:48pm What's the best way to talk to your parents about academic pressure?
March 16th, 2015 8:22pm Why do I keep picturing the trauma at random times during the day and night?
February 5th, 2015 6:00am Is it normal for someone who has lost their beloved to pretend that they still exist and not accept that they are gone?
March 12th, 2015 8:25pm How can I stop thinking about my mistakes?
March 13th, 2015 9:18pm