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Stick with my old friends or with the new one?
Relationship Stress / by RedWallflower
Last post
 November 25th, 2016
...See more You see I have this group of friends for more than a year now (1yr and 1 month). From the beginning of friendship sometimes i already feel like left out and out of place. They are all extrovert and i am the only introvert type. I am stadious and they are always joking around any time and any place (even in class). I know they always want to keep a good happy mood. But I just let them be because that is who they are and im only this serious. Just a half a year already passed I tried to reach out and try to be like them to make it work out, because I am becoming to feel like air. They wanted me to talk or share some stories but I cant. I am having a difficult time to squeeze in in their conversation. Sometimes they wanted me to tell stories but totally in a wrong timing for me. I tried to make some jokes like they always do. I tried to be very impulsive but it is hard for me not to think when i feel like there is something wrong. I still tried to make adjustments. Just recently, after an incident happened, they opened up the next day afternoon. They opened up and said alot of stuff to me about how and why they are irritated at me. They are like ranting infront of my face :( Some  of what they said are not true, while some are said the other way. I totally felt like black sheep. I can feel pressure because there is only one of me and the other one is like shouting at me.. They even told me that they already made a huge adjustment, a huge 360 and let me feel how they feel about me. :( they said they dont even get my personality.I feel so down that since that day i felt depressed. I became depressed. Because they should have told me earlier than later. They told me that they couldnt say it earlier because they know i will get all emotional. I really felt like crap after that long conversation. I thank them for opening up and the concern about my feelings but it has been 1yr and it is hard for me to take for i also made adjustments. I asked a lot of advice and counceling from alot of people that im very much comfortable with to keep me going and have some support of what i must do. I distance from them for a while and ignoring them like air atleast for a day so i could find myself again and it doesnt feel right anymore. Suddenly new friends found me unexpectedly we all have this same likes and personality. The following 2 days i hang out with them. I feel more comfortable with them.  A friend confronted me about my old friends and wanted to get things better. My old friends are already mad. We made another group conversation again, I felt the pressure again but a bit less. They told me that they opened up so they would know what adjustments we would do, not for me to go to a different group. And it was a long argument conversation again. Then settled that  we would distance for awhile.  I am struggling thinking if I would still go with my old group or to the new one :( I wanted to go to the new one that felt more right, but i feel like im afraid to let go from my old friends (they also wanted to keep a solid friendship) Plsss help Im not sure what Im going to do :'( (Plss leave me a message, or we could do a live chat about this, there is a lot more to tell, thank you )
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