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Remymcglashan
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Manifestation ruined my mental health. Help.
Anxiety Support / by Remymcglashan
Last post
 December 2nd, 2022
...See more I've always been anxious. Not of everything, typically one thing at a time. My brain picks a thing and ruminates, the thoughts are intrusive and come throughout the day, typically it is exact same phrased thought that pops up over and over. However, before, I would worry about the thought happening, but that was enough. It wouldn't actually happen, and I'd move on to the next thing. Getting brief moments and spots of relief. NOW the uprising of manifestation has quite literally made things tenfolds worse. Instead of just thinking about a thought and fearing it happening, now I also worry that simply *thinking* about it could make it happen. Logically I know this isn't possible, I've had anxiety for my whole life and the thoughts don't actually come to fruition unless they are things that are already extremely likely to happen in real life anyway, and I know these instances has nothing to do with my thoughts, but that's the logical side of my brain, the intrusive, anxious side is clinging to this fear and I just wanted to vent that frustration and say **** you manifestation gurus on the internet for making me fear my own thoughts somehow even more than before :/
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Seeking genuine advice
Relationship Stress / by Remymcglashan
Last post
 August 4th, 2021
...See more So I dated a guy for 2 years, we split a month ago we had been arguing because my mental health was bad. I got easily irritated and moody, I wasn't 100% sure why but I assumed it was just anxiety which I know I have. The breakup felt so fundamentally wrong, I love this guy and we had similar life goals, senses of humor, values and beliefs etc. We spent every day together. Eventually the fights just got too much for him and I respect that he stepped out for his own sake. Since then we haven't spoken and I am in therapy, it was recommended I get some testing done especially because I've on and off had an eating disorder and that can lead to hormonal imbalances especially with cortisol that heighten anxiety, irritability and fight or flight. I went to a doctor and it turned out that that actually was the case. It sucked learning my problems had a lot of ties to chemical issues somewhat beyond my knowledge or control, I'm only 19! Now that I'm working with meds, a new diet and exercises Im feeling better and I can't help but wish I could approach my ex and try get a fresh start but he hasn't reached out (its been exactly a month, I texted him once a little while ago to apologize for my anxiety issues and he said he doesn't want to catch up and wants to move on) I am committed to giving him space to heal obviously, and explore himself etc but my soul is telling me not to give up, that if I'm able to overcome my eating disorder and deal with anxiety that perhaps I can show him in the future that I've improved myself and that I'm worth a shot. I just don't know if I should wait a long while and text or wait a long while and do an in person gesture. He also doesn't know about the hormonal issues or that I've found ways to fix them so I'm pondering if i should reach out and explain that. Im just looking for advice but please don't just bombard me with "give up and move on" I'm respecting his space, not stalking or spamming him, i just know people are capable of changing feelings, forgiveness etc and that since we are both only 19 that time could really bring opportunity for a fresh start..trying to stay hopeful I would just love tips if anyone knows good ways to reconcile with an ex.
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I've been toxic
Relationship Stress / by Remymcglashan
Last post
 July 26th, 2021
...See more I tend to get very aggressive when i feel insecure and angry, ive been toxic in my past relationship, im trying to improve for the future, anyone have genuine communication tips?
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Anxious, sad and scared
Anxiety Support / by Remymcglashan
Last post
 July 21st, 2021
...See more I'm struggling a bit right now, trying not to worry but i just lost out on a relationship i really liked because my anxiety got so bad that we would have nasty fights to the point where they had to leave the relationship. Now im anxious they will move on forever despite my efforts to get help and move forward to become a better version of me, i wish i wasn't anxious about this !
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Confused about a breakup
Relationship Stress / by Remymcglashan
Last post
 July 20th, 2021
...See more Definitely going through the motions, I had a partner for 2 years and he ended things, the night he ended things he called me and we talked, he said he wasn't happy and had been thinking about ending things for a while. We fought a lot and a lot of the fights came down to me having really bad anxiety and general stress which when activated makes me aggressive and angry. I am definitely ashamed of how bad i let it all get on my end when we argued.( Im now using this app and some other mental health and meditation apps to work on myself ). The actual events of the breakup leave me confused, i still really care about this person and would love to rekindle things when i have my emotions under better control but im trying to figure out if logically I'll have that chance. I know that no human can know 100% what another person is thinking or feeling and that feelings change all the time but its been healthy for me to even just type all this out so i would love to get a conversation going that can maybe even help other people going through something similar! Some details about the breakup include that when we first called, he suggested we could break up but reconnect 6-8 months from now. That night i agreed but when he came to drop off some of my stuff and get some of his, i pushed him on the details (if i should have hope or if i should be open to dating other people months from now ect) this seemed to really push him away because he ended up saying that he wasn't really sure he even wanted to do the 6-8 month thing at all. Im embarrassed to say it but then i begged and pleaded, he left agreeing to consider if we should actually break up, for a few days he thought and ended up dropping off some gifts i gave him and leaving. He seemed pretty done at the time but we are going to the same university and he unfollowed me but didn't block me on Instagram so i don't know if that may leave some opportunity for the future if i truly have changed? Any thoughts? Was it a good sign he was willing to take extra days to consider or no because he eventually decided no ? Very unsure also if anyone has good tips for conflict with a partner i would love to hear those as well!
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