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...See more Been with my wife for 11 years. We have two kids together. Shortly after my mother passed away two years ago, I was informed by someone close to the situation that my wife has been having an affair with her ex throughout our marriage. I was devastated. This prompt me to investigate which lead me to finding messages on her *** between her and her ex. When I confronted her about it she immediately said this was a lie. Not knowing I found messages, I asked her had she ever been in contact with her ex, to which she also denied. I was crushed to see her lying to me. I then confronted her with the messages and she stated this happened only one time and she had lapsed in judgment. She wants to start over and move on but I cannot bring myself to trusting her. I wish she was just honest and tell me the truth, but all she does is deny it and makes other excuses. She also got her aunt to be her alibi by three way calling her and making me go on mute. Her aunt not knowing I was on the phone called me some evil names stating that I was only accusing my wife as a way of trying to control her. She completely deflected and accused me of infidelity. When I tried to speak up during the call, my wife quickly hung up. This made me angry. I told my wife that her actions made things worst. My wife also went to Vegas with her cousin in less than a year after my mother passed. This was after her and I agreed this trip would be between us. I think she may have met with her ex in Vegas and although she did go with her cousin I cannot discount the possibility that her ex was also there. I just cant prove it. Never did my wife consider that it was going to be my first birthday with out my mother and she could've used that money to do something special for me. I'm really tired and want a divorce but Im afraid of what will happen to my kids. I'm afraid of losing them. I'm so frustrated that I allowed myself to be a fool for so long. I trusted her. I'm confused and wish she was honest. I'm stuck between believing her but I cannot ignore all the other variables. I have no one to talk to and my mind is going crazy. I just need someone to listen without passing judgment.

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