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Saphirefly
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PathStep 35 Compassion hearts158 Forum posts24 Forum upvotes27 Current upvotes27 Age GroupAdult Last activeOctober, 2025 Member sinceMarch 29, 2020
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Narcissistic Absuse
Trauma Support / by Saphirefly
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 February 14th, 2025
...See more For those who were in an abusive relationship with someone with narcissistic personality disorder, what is something you wish you had known about the disorder? What do you wish you had known about yourself at the time? What have been lasting effects for you since that relationship and how have you tried to heal?
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Husband's addiction
General Support / by Saphirefly
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 November 14th, 2024
...See more Hello! I recently found out my husband has been addicted to pornography. He had been watching it up to a few times a day and even has spent hundreds of dollars purchasing content while we have been together. Finding this out has made me feel diminished and like I am not enough for him. I have always wanted to be intimate more frequently than he does and he would often use the excuse he is too tired when I would try to initiate. When finding out he has been watching pornography daily it was devastating as I know from studies it can cause dysfunction in that area. I asked him why he felt the need to do it and he said he does it out of convenience. He said he does not know any of his friends that don't watch it and that he had always done it in relationships. I just feel betrayed and belittled. I know it's a controversial topic because so many do it but I don't understand how a wife or any woman is supposed to feel comfortable with their significant other watching and looking at thousands of perfect bodied naked women. I asked him to stop and he said he has. I am just worried he will begin lying about it and be more sneaky. How do I move forward with this and gain back trust to loose this insecure feeling I have now? Am I overreacting? Thank you!
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Is it concidered rape if it’s your husband and you never said no?
Trauma Support / by Saphirefly
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 October 18th, 2021
...See more Hello all, i have been married for 7 years and it started out good but over the years I have found he has been mentally, emotionally and verbally abusive. I no longer want to be intimate with him and we have been having those moment less and less thank God. I don’t want him to touch me or even be near me but he finds a way to. He will beg and beg until I finally give in to him. If I say no he gets angry. Each time I have started feeling dirtier and nearly end up in tears because I cannot explain how much I DONT want to do it. Is this rape? I never said no but I didn’t say yes either. I tried to leave him once but ended up back with him. I’m in the process of trying to leave again but he doesn’t know yet.
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How to Divorce a narcissist?
Relationship Stress / by Saphirefly
Last post
 August 12th, 2021
...See more How do you divorce a mentally and emotionally abusive narcissistic who believes they are always right and haven’t done anything wrong? There’s also a 5 month old child involved now.
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Divorce
Relationship Stress / by Saphirefly
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 August 7th, 2021
...See more I am thinking about divorcing my husband because I am becoming more and more aware of how mentally and emotionally abusive he is and had been in the past. My concern is that we just had a 5 month old son and I’m afraid of what type of legal things have to go on during divorces. I want to share him 50/50 with my husband but am afraid if he becomes nasty during everything that things could go bad in court. Can someone explain how much a court HAS to get involved if both parties are civil about everything? What about if I am civil and he isn’t? I don’t want anything from him. He can keep all the money, the house, and everything in it. I just want my clothes, a car, and shared time with my son. This is so devastating to be thinking about.
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Regrets?
Relationship Stress / by Saphirefly
Last post
 August 26th, 2021
...See more Hello everyone! Is it normal to dream about a past relationship? I have been married now for 7 years and things have recently really started going down hill in the last year or so. My husband has been more controlling and is showing a-lot of signs of narcissistic personality disorder. He tells me who I can and can’t see and about a year ago had a big blow up over masking with my parents and at one point told me I need to choose between him and them and never talk with them again. I am close to my parents so that was not an option. Anyway, that went by now and things are still rough and very stressful. Unfortunately I have been dreaming about my ex boyfriend at least a couple times a week. We were 17 when I broke up with him and I’m 26 now. I broke up with him for things that seem so minor now because my husband has done them 10 times worse. In my dreams my ex boyfriend is so caring and kind. I feel like I’m going crazy. Does this happen to anyone else? I keep wishing I had never ended our relationship. Things feel like they would be so much easier.
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Toxic behavior
Relationship Stress / by Saphirefly
Last post
 June 27th, 2021
...See more What is considered toxic behavior by your husband? What is considered mental abuse? What is considered emotional abuse?
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