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Help me pls :/
Relationship Stress / by SecondDeepForest
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 August 9th, 2019
...See more Hello there, I feel confused and sad. I have been dating with my bf for 6 months. Also, I want to mention that we try to be together for a second time (first time we were dating 1 year long but we divorced. The reason was that our interests were too different. Also, we were young and were not mature so after a break up of 2 years, we decided to try to build our relationship again). When we started dating again, in the beginning of our relationship, we were having long talks about everything. I really liked it and I was happy. Later, after a few months of being with my boyfriend, I realised that he messages me only when he wants to see me. When we come across, he usually takes me to have cup of coffee and after that he takes me back home. No deep or atleast long conversations. Only some issues about studies, which he has told me before. He writes me once or sometimes twice a week. He start all conversations with a same question "hey, what are you doing? Wanna come across today?". In one meeting, I told him that, when he messages or calls me only when he wants to meet me. Also I mentioned to him that after this no emotional conversatiom, which I have written earlier, it forces me feel like a thing in a list "weekly plans" and told him that it makes me sadly when he "writes done" in that "list". He heard me and assured me that he will write me more often. Sadly, the beginning of those messages are still the same. When I offer him another activity, he usually accepts it but I see that he does not like it but he is saying that he enjoyed there, when his body language says in a opposite way. I asked him several times what he does in his freetime where he would like to spend time with me but he usually changes topic. Yes, he is a master of changing topics. And finally, I told him a lot of times that I hate, when people are lying of saying impossible things (e.g. i can everything. Literally none of us can do everything). In this situation, he repeats that he is gentleman and he will help and take care for me. The interesting thing, that he opens the cars door, when I need to sit into his car but he has never opened other doors. Or have never helped me to carry our heavy bags pr even ask me could he help (of we take gentleman's stereotype, he should even help to carry heavy bags...) I have many situations to describe but my questions are: how should I talk to him that after conversation he starts to make positive changes? How even make an emotional conversation to share my ferlings? I am dissapointed. Sometimes after meeting I feel having depression it makes me very sad. Sorry in advance for grammar mistakes. English is not my native language. I hope, someone will answer me.
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