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SkateComet93
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Crochet WIP
Arts & Crafts / by SkateComet93
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 May 28th, 2024
...See more Blocking my crochet top... first time I've made a piece of clothing! Well see how it goes.
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Missing my kitties
Grief & Loss / by SkateComet93
Last post
 June 12th, 2024
...See more I'd like to share a big reason why I am here at 7 Cups. First I have to go back, 5 years ago I lost my cat of 17 years. I think that was one of the absolute hardest times in my life. It was like losing a piece of myself; like a huge hole ripped open. I spent a lot of time working on myself and through the pain and have gotten to a place where I am happy to be able to treasure the memories and photos I have of him. Last year my partner & I decided we were ready for another cat. We rescued a kitten from a shelter. It was a lot more, emotionally, than we'd thought. I don't think we were quite ready and I kept feeling reverberations of my previous lose even as I was loving this new kitten - thinking about the end again. Just a few months after adopting him we had to take him to the ER. A lot was going on and ultimately there were complications. Surgery was an option but not something they could do there. It was really really hard but we decided to not prolong his suffering for an unknown outcome. It's been a few months since and I'm not totally ok. Still working through the grief of my kitten I barely got to know. That honestly is one of the hardest parts; not having had more time. He did show me I could love another kitty again but losing him so soon...I was not ready for that. I'm so frustrated by the situation. I wish it didn't have to be like that and just want him back. It's not like before where I had so much time together and time to see think about the end. It literally all went down in the span of 2 days. I know grief is not linear but I feel stuck in denial almost. Like why did it have to happen this way, why can't I just have him back...why? I logically know there is no answer here. It is just is. I do think I acted in his best interest but it's not easy to live with. It's really hard to look at pictures or talk about him...or look at other people's new cats. My in-laws just got a kitten and I literally can't look at it and start bawling when they talk about it. Last time it took me probably 2 years to work through my grief. This time, I don't know. I'm just feeling a bit lost I guess. Anyway, thanks for staying with me if you've made it this far.
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Skate's one line a day
Journals & Diaries / by SkateComet93
Last post
 June 3rd, 2024
...See more Day 1 5.25.24 starting the one line a day challenge! New here and looking to help orient myself to gain  resilience and clarity to keep moving the needle forward.
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