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Relationship Stress / by Strawberries3694
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 May 25th, 2021
...See more My boyfriend got a new job in another state and asked me to move with him so I did. We've been living together for 7 months now and pretty much out of the blue he told me yesterday that he wants me to pack all my stuff up and move back home. He said he can't guarantee he won't regret it and he'll miss me but he's overwhelmed with work and everything and he thinks being alone is going to help him. I'm extremely stressed out and sad. Not only do I have no where to return to, but I don't have the financial means to just move across the states again so soon and honestly I just don't want to be uprooted from my home. It's my home too. We haven't been fighting, there are not other people involved, he admitted I make life easier for him with helping with payments and chores. I'm just really confused and I desperately need some advice. I'm taking a vacation from my job in a week and he wants me to just pack up all my things and move back during that time. His only reasoning he gives me is that he's too stressed out and overwhelmed with having a new career and moving and he hasn't been able to work on our relationship so he said he'd be better alone. A couple of years after we first started dating he broke up with me out of the blue saying he didn't see a future with me, but then within a year we got back together and he told me he wanted a future with me. I told him I didn't want to go through this again and yet here we are now. I don't know what I should do , or how to approach this situation. I asked him if he's just going to change his mind if I move back and he said probably. But this is an expensive and extremely emotional thing to do on a whim. I can't just keep dropping and picking up jobs randomly so I'm where he wants me to be. I also just spent a lot of money and time and energy getting the new state license and plates and car insurance. But I can't afford to just get an apartment here on my own. One bedrooms here are too expensive by myself. But I don't have a place back where we were either. And I don't have a job there so I'm worried if I move back and get a place I won't find work fast enough and I won't be able to pay bills. And then he'll just say he misses me and made a mistake and wants me to move back across America to be with him. I also have our cat, so I would have to uproot our pet and upset him by moving. I'm so stressed I can't sleep and I have no idea what I should do.
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