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...See more My wife (we were married in June) has BPD, and she gets very anxious, depressed, and angry towards me specifically. She says I took away her job, her ability to function, and everything she loves about herself. While this is hard to hear and my brain knows I did not single-handedly steal anything away like a thief in the night, what if this is her reality? "Do I deserve this?", my heart questions. She has gotten to the point of slamming the door so aggressively and repeatedly in our place, that the cops have come at least three times now and today I have replaced the moldings once more to the doorways that have flown off. A therapist said that I may be used to grandiose behavior due to trauma and the past, so I may not be seeing it as dangerous. HELP. My wife is the most kind, sweet, soft human being you will ever meet and when she is upset then the switch flips. It is breaking my heart, and I am worried for the future. * I do not know what to do * I do not have anyone to talk about this with * Is there a support group for loved ones of those with BPD? I feel like I am only scratching the surface here, and I support her wholeheartedly and I really honestly mean it when I say she is the sweetest and best person--It really pains me when this happens, but these outbursts and proclamations of hating "being here" are becoming more frequent. Thank you for the read

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