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TheDragonMom
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Eastern orthodox mom of 4 (almost grown) kids. Childhood trauma survivor and violent sexual assault survivor by ex husband of 13 years. I might fight all my life, but I'll never give up. I've survived all the fire meant to burn me and all those who tried to take me out. Just hoping to find support and advice from others who know how it is....


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Can anyone help with advice for emotions and feelings issues?
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 October 17th, 2024
...See more I am a survivor of long-term childhood abuse, and then was married for 13 years. Had four kids, and after I filed for divorce, when my ex husband found out, he sexually assaulted me at gunpoint. I find it difficult for whatever reason to not take on the negativity. That is around me, whether it be with my kids or with my husband or others. Does anybody else struggle to assert their own feelings? And not take on those of others even with my own kids. It's like I'm a people pleaser, or try to be Just to keep peace and harmony and happiness. Even when it's not healthy. Thank God, my kids are all wonderful. Kids, although they're not really kids anymore, they're 1817 16 and 14, but they've had a perfectly normal and happy. Life because I wanted to give them everything I didn't have, but in doing that tend to spoil them a little bit and given to them just to keep peace and happiness at all costs. And I know that's not good, my husband that I've remarried constantly gets on to me. For not being harder on the kids when need be, but it's like I can't find the strength to do it because it affects me so harshly. I don't know how to treat this or how to fix it or how to find strength to fix it. I take medication, I see my psychiatrist, but I'm at a rut. When it comes to feelings and emotions, I just don't know how to conquer this. I am an Eastern orthox Christian, and I find a lot of peace in my own faith, but I don't don't know how to beat this and how to be assertive and not take on the negativity. Or painful emotions of others, how to be able to not take on the unhappiness of my kids when I have to get on to them for things that they do or for attitudes that they give me, does anybody have any advice?
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