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TheJoxter
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Number of ratings17 Number of reviews14 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish, Dutch Listener sinceMar 22, 2021 Last activein last month GenderNon-Binary PathStep 91 People helped57 Chats224 Group support chats62 Listener group chats240 Forum posts148 Forum upvotes242
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Call me Jox (he/they)

I'm in my late 20s, I am nonbinary/transmasc, I am a night owl, I am autistic. On cups I am also a Peer Supporter. But most of all I consider myself to be an empath. I try to be free from judgement and open and accepting of all.  This however does not mean that I easily talk about everything. There are topics I'm more fond of than others, these are:

  • Trans/nonbinary identity and transitioning
  • Autism
  • LGBTQIA+ relationships etc
  • Ethical non monogamy/polyamory
  • ADHD
  • Addiction 

As I previously stated I am also open for peer support for my listener peers who've had a rough or challenging chat! 



I am also a victim of cocsa (child on child sexual abuse) and have experience with going through trauma therapy for this. If you're also a victim of cocsa please know you are not alone. I will listen to you. I also take chats on csa (child sexual abuse in general).

 Www.7cups.com/forum/trauma/ChildDomesticAbuse_601/TWSAWhatisCOCSA_317531/


Recent forum posts
Losing a parent - gone but not forgotten
Grief & Loss / by TheJoxter
Last post
 November 30th, 2023
...See more It is only normal to feel anxious, depressed and on edge, and in total disarray when you lose someone as important as a parent. Your whole life this person has had your back, taken care of you, seen you often at your most vulnerable, watched a lot of your firsts. Yes it's downright terrifying when that familiarity is gone from the earth. But not gone from your heart. The memories will stay, and they will be intense at first and coloured with grief and anger... perhaps with guilt? (Not spending enough time together etc.). But that's okay. After a while, and this can take years, that layer of sadness is worn down, like a rock that has been touched too much. The surface is smooth and you can now hold the memories and feel their warmth, you might more often see yourself comparing yourself to your parent - seek familiarity- to perhaps see parts of them again when you look in to the mirror. That is grief and coping with it. Realising someone might be physically gone, but mentally they're still there- in your head and heart. (I have personally not lost a parent but I have lost my grandmother who was like a mother to me. For all of those who've lost a (grand)parent, or even another loved one, I hear you and see your struggles and acknowledge and applaud your ways of trying to cope. Offering you warm hugs and all the strength in the world).
[TW SA] What is COCSA?
Trauma Support / by TheJoxter
Last post
 November 17th, 2023
...See more COCSA (child on child sexual abuse) is a form of SA where both the perpetrator(s) and victim(s) are minors. No adults are involved in COCSA. Some perpetrators use physical force, threats, trickery or emotional manipulation [https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_manipulation] to elicit cooperation, it also can include non-coercive situations where the initiator proposes or starts a sexual act that the victim does not understand the nature of and simply goes along with, not comprehending its implications or what the consequences might be. * There is an unfair power dynamic between the children (this can be either in age or in intelligence or in physical strength)  * No explicit consent has been given for acts of a sexual nature * Sexual acts go beyond what is "age appropriate exploration" with a focus on sexual gratification(making out, penetration, picture taking etc.) COCSA between siblings is called inter-sibling abuse. When victims of inter-sibling and/or child-on-child sexual abuse grow up, they often have distorted recall of the act, such as thinking it was consensual [https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Consensual] or that they were the initiator.  Perpetrators are often (but not always) victims of child sexual abuse or COCSA themselves, or get introduced to things such as pornography at an extremely young age. COCSA is pretty common but not often talked about due to intense shame, and gets dismissed as harmless ("We all played doctor when we were young", "it was just experimenting") . This is why we don't really know the prevalence. It's estimated that as many as 40% of children who are sexually abused are victims of COCSA. Child on child sexual abuse comprises more than one-quarter (25.8%) of all sex offenses. [https://www.wksexcrimes.com/practice-areas/child-on-child-sexual-abuse/] Treatment for COCSA usually happens at a later age if it happens at all. Common treatment is trauma therapy such as EMDR and exposure.  I hope this will help some of you understand COCSA, something I've personally been through at the age of 6. If this is something you want to talk about with a listener do not hesitate to contact me. My ears will be open and I will never judge you, you were only a child after all. If there are any questions do ask them here or send me a message.
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