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Currently on a break to focus on my well-being đź’ś I encourage you to browse through the many wonderful listeners available to support you!
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I know life can be heavy. I know the kind of pain that makes it feel like it's hard to breathe or like the light at the end of the tunnel may not even be there.

I've lived through trauma, grief, forms of abuse, and complicated family dynamics. I've experienced death and the pain that lingers more than most people do in their entire lifetime. 

I don't claim to know all the answers or even the right things to say at times, but I do know what it's like to feel so completely lost and overwhelmed by pain and loneliness. I know what it feels like to feel completely invisible, unimportant, and unheard. Sometimes we don't need anyone to fix things or to have the magical words to turn it all around. Sometimes all we really need is someone to understand. To not judge. To sit with us and simply say, "I get it". 

It doesn't matter if you're feeling alone, stuck, or even unsure of what you need. I'm here for you. I'm here to listen. I'm here to remind you your story matters. You always matter.


My Approach

You can expect kindness, warmth, and a space that’s free of pressure or judgment. Whether you know exactly what you want to talk about or are just feeling lost and not sure where to start, I’m here to help you explore your thoughts and feelings at a pace that feels safe and comfortable.


My background

As a teacher, I specialized in helping children through anxiety, emotional regulation, and feelings they didn't always know how to express. I helped them navigate through their own emotions and experiences, never telling them when or how to do something. Instead, I acted as a friend, following their lead and comfort level while always offering gentle, encouraging, unconditional support.

I've also worked extensively with families of unsolved missing persons cases, showing empathy in moments when words just aren't enough.

Now, I am actively working towards my peer support certification to continue to bring my patience, understanding, and reassurance to others.


Connecting With Me

I'm usually online weekdays until 3:00 pm PST/ 6:00 pm EST. Evenings and weekends are devoted to family time, but you are welcome to message me anytime at all. I will respond to all messages as soon as I possibly can.

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No matter what my status says, I'm never far away and am always happy to work out a plan that works best for you 💞


















































































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How Caleb Taught Me True Understanding
IDG 7 Cups Hub / by ThirteenHearts
Last post
 August 8th, 2025
...See more It was my first day on the job as a lower elementary school teacher (my lifelong dream). I was hired shortly after a new school year had already started, and on my first day, my co-teacher pulled me aside as she gestured towards one of our students. "Watch out for that one," she warned me. Caleb (not his real name) was labeled the "problem child" after repeated outbursts - throwing chairs, stealing toys and games from the classroom, and shoving anyone who stood in his way. By the time I was hired, Caleb was spending more time in the principal's office than he was in the classroom. I quickly saw what she was warning me about. One day, as we were cleaning up after a big art project, another student accidentally bumped Caleb's work, knocking off a few pieces that hadn't completely dried yet. He screamed obscenities at her as he slammed his project on the floor, crawling under a nearby table where he cried and banged his fists on the wall behind him. His classmate was sobbing, Caleb was shouting at the world, and my co-teacher was rushing to him, threatening to yank him out from under the table and drag him to the office. My heart shattered. Minutes later, I found myself kneeling next to the table as Caleb wailed. He yelled at me any time I tried to comfort him, so instead, I just waited. Before long, he accepted my presence. I crawled under the table and sat with him as he cried, telling me how stupid his classmate was and how much he hated her.  And I let him. I didn't scold him or threaten to call his mom. Instead, I just sat with him, patiently, and let him react the way he felt he needed to in that moment. After nearly an hour, we talked about accidents. Although he was still angry, he was using much kinder language. His tears had stopped. I smiled at him. "Wanna try and fix it together?" I asked him. "I can get the glue and we can put these pieces back on." He nodded slowly then crawled out from under the table. We sat together, talking lightly, as we glued it all back together. No one had ever bothered to stop and see his pain. To hear him. To just be there for him. I know that day meant a lot to Caleb. He still had his fair share of outbursts, don't get me wrong, but we stuck together. I no longer saw him as a "problem child". He was just a very lonely, misunderstood, hurt young boy who was constantly told how awful he was. Caleb will never know how much I learned that day. I will forever be grateful for that moment we shared. He helped me more than he'll ever know. Reflecting on the IDG framework, I feel my time with Caleb aligns with several dimensions. In acting, I relied on courage and creativity to challenge the "straight-to-the-office" rule that had been so strongly implemented, trying to instead understand his perspective. Through optimism and perseverance, we were able to work together toward a positive outcome. Relating taught me through empathy and compassion that not everything is as it seems. We're able to deepen our connections through communication, trust, and collaborating. Although I still sometimes catch myself reacting before pausing to be more present in the moment, my time with Caleb helped me slow down to see the bigger picture. How might seeing things from someone else's viewpoint strengthen relationships and connections? Have you ever felt misunderstood or misunderstood someone else? If so, what did you learn from the experience?
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Brushing Away Self-Criticism: What Sparked My Journey to Self-Compassion
IDG 7 Cups Hub / by ThirteenHearts
Last post
 August 4th, 2025
...See more Years ago, I found the perfect date night idea - a small, instructor-led painting class. My husband and I sat in front of our own blank canvases with a wide variety of paint brushes and acrylics and followed the instructor, step by step, to recreate a beautiful park scene the teacher had painted beforehand. I loved painting. I had done it my entire life and would get lost in it for hours. But that night, I ruined it. Not only for myself, but more importantly, my husband. It’s been over 10 years and I’m still humiliated and ashamed over how I acted. While others sat around and laughed over their “melting trees” or streaky sky, I sat in silence, refusing to pick up my paintbrush. My bridge had come out totally uneven. My pond started off as green and blue but had quickly turned into a murky brownish-grey after too many attempts to fix it. My husband sat next to me, gently encouraging me to keep trying. He pointed out how differently his looked, too, and reminded me that everyone’s would look different in its own way, including the instructor’s. But through every step, I spent minute after minute going over the same spots, desperately and frustratingly trying to make each stroke absolutely perfect. The more I tried, the worse it looked, and the farther and farther I fell behind everyone else. I set my paintbrush down and tried my best to hold back tears. I was so angry. I had painted for years. Why was I struggling so much with this? My husband stayed silent the rest of the night, undoubtedly afraid I’d continue to snap at him the more he tried to comfort me. By the end of the night, everyone lined up against one wall and held up their paintings, smiling for a group photo. I stood in the back, not even bothering to hold mine up above my knees. It was in the dumpster before we even reached the car. After all these years, I still vividly remember that night. The frustration and anger growing stronger and stronger. The lump in my throat as I struggled to not burst into tears in front of a room full of strangers. And my poor husband’s face, absolutely crushed and defeated after sitting next to his miserable, pouting wife all night. Reflecting on the Inner Development Goals, it reminds me of Being - Relationship to Self, specifically, “when faced with complexity, your relationship with your thoughts, feelings, and body with the goal to be nonreactive.” I think it’s safe to say I most certainly was not nonreactive. Openness and Learning Mindset is explained as “having a basic mindset of curiosity and a willingness to be vulnerable and embrace change and grow. In order to achieve this, it's important that your sense of self is not based on identifying with a certain set of beliefs as that can hold back your curiosity.” I walked into that room full of confidence, sure I was going to have an amazing time. I knew how to paint. I loved it. I enjoyed every second of it. Why would that night be any different? Oh, how wrong I was. Shall I keep going? The IDG course says self-awareness is "the ability to be in reflective contact with your own thoughts, feelings, and desires; having a realistic self-image and ability to regulate oneself. Being aware of your internal though process (strengths, weaknesses, triggers)." Logically, of course I understood no two paintings would look the same. Even the teacher herself wouldn’t have been able to paint an exact copy of her original artwork. Yet I sat stewing, completely disgusted with myself and my failure of a painting. My husband’s painting looked different than anyone else’s - no surprise there. Were his lines perfect? No. Was everything in proportion? Absolutely not. But I still loved it. It looked amazing.  So why couldn’t I allow myself that same grace? Why couldn’t I embrace the little imperfections and just let go and have a fun night as I had intended? Why was I so encouraging and supportive of others yet so absolutely critical and harsh with myself? Luckily, it’s something I’ve learned to work on over the years. Am I perfect at it? No, absolutely not. But more often than not, I’m able to pause, take a deep breath, and reassure myself that it’s ok. It’s ok to not be perfect. It’s ok to not excel at everything. It’s ok to be me. Have you had a moment where you caught yourself being too hard on yourself? How might self-compassion help reshape that moment?
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