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Number of ratings53 Number of reviews49 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish Listener sinceFeb 19, 2019 Last activein last week GenderFemale PathStep 1,166 People helped241 Chats1,310 Group support chats60 Listener group chats51 Forum posts77 Forum upvotes99
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⚠️ Please only personally request me if you are seriously in need of talking with someone and in distress ⚠️ 


🏳️‍🌈 LGBTQ+ friendly, judge-free zone. 🏳️‍🌈

 #BlackLivesMatter 

My name is Valarie and I'm a 28 year old from the empire state, New York. I was born and raised here and I know first hand what it's like to feel hopeless and often feel alone in my own mind. But I want to take my experiences and the thoughts that I have, to help and uplift others. So we can know our strengths as the precious souls we are and that we shouldn't take ourselves for granted. Live each day as best as we can, and it's okay to feel our feelings. It's okay to not be okay sometimes, but life will get better.. And give us our time to grow and enjoy our light.. Please respect that this is a website where we want to help in any way, I understand that I may not be able to always help each person and I want to try my best in doing so. I know everyone goes through different things and we all have our own story and our own way of conveying those emotions.  If you EVER feel like you have no way out or you need someone to talk to, do not hesitate to message me. Even if I am not online, I will try my best to answer as best as I can and respond to your messages. If you feel like self-harming or are feeling suicidal, please look at the numbers below and remember: You are important, self-care and getting help is okay.. You are strong and you are loved. 💕 I understand that it is difficult because life isn't easy at all. 

The following is a list of helpful websites if you cannot afford therapy or you need something to use to obtain relief, or in crisis.. A hotline to call in case you need someone to talk to as soon as possible!! 

Do: 
*** Prevention and immediate attention ***
Suicide Prevention Hotline
211.org
Crisis Text Line 
International Suicide Hotlines
Hopeline
SAMHSA National Helpline



*** Relaxation and helpful coping mechanisms *** 
Musical Squares
This Is Sand
Freerice
E-Books
Piano Player
Tetris
Neon Flames


Do not:
- Send disrespectful messages and call me crude/vile names, I will try and address the situations at hand in a cordial manner. 
- As much as I would like to talk about everything that is going on, when it comes to sexual fantasies I would like to refrain from listening to those types of stories, I am here for YOU and not for sexual gratification, this isn't a sex chat website
- I am human at the end of the day and have feelings as well, as much as I will put away my personal feelings aside. Please note that we as listeners appreciate our respect and will help in any way we can. 
Recent forum posts
Homemade Bread (Using a bread maker)
Hobby Zone / by Thyselfbetrue
Last post
 January 15th, 2023
...See more I'm sure sure you can use it with a mixer or manually.. I just used the bread maker that was given to us and I tried it twice, this loaf came out a lot nicer.. And oh my gosh, beats store bought by so much! :) Was so happy to come across this recipe and try it out, it's so simple and all you have to do is throw it in the pale and the machine mixes, turns it, kneads it, lets it rise and bakes it!! https://imgur.com/a/1MHaaav - The loaf I made today. It took roughly 2-3 hours to let it cool and what not.. Mmm. Nothing better than something that is easy, fresh and homemade. :) Recipe: 2 1/2 cups bread flour (You can substitute gluten-free flour of your choice or use all purpose flour as well) 1 cup luke warm water 1 package active dry yeast 1 tsp salt 2 tbsp sugar 2 tbsp honey (can add raisins if you wish) 2 tbsp shortening or butter Yields: 1.5 pound loaf And voila. The hardest part now is waiting. :D
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Feedback & Reviews
She was so kind and validating. I really appreciated how she really tried to understand what I was going through and helped me feel confident in sticking up for myself!
Seemed very genuine
She is goddess !
She's very awesome and understanding!!
Really understanding and personable.
She always responded quickly and was always empathetic. She was the perfect listener for me. You will not go wrong with her
Amazing listener. She was very attentive, caring and very encouraging and supportive! I would definitely recommend her!
One of the best listeners on here! She listened very carefully, told me what I already knew but she validated it and made me feel better. The fact that she listened, meant the world to me because I am trying to figure out what I need to do. She confirmed my feelings and made me see clearly. I highly recommend her. Thanks a bunch!
amazing listener, beautiful heart
amazing listener, the only one who listened to me after many who refused
Extremely insightful, compassionate and very kind. You need someone to validate exactly what's going on, but also require what is missing. This wonderful listener does exactly that. Thank you so much!
She is amazing
Love the person she is. so much of positivity and strength that she understands you and your situation. blessed soul.
Good listening skills
I’m in the biggest hole of my life and talking to valarie for even this little bit of time has already made me feel SO much better. She’s the best!
They were very understanding and positive, would chat with them again.
Great to talk to and helped a lot!
She's amazing..
She's an amazing person, incredibly open minded, down to Earth and above all else, loving and helpful. There's not enough time in the world to truly do justice to what a fantastic soul she is. Love her.
She is one of the best listeners here, loving and caring
A very supportive person
very kind and supportive, thank you so much Val ☺️
She sat there and listened as I vented and whined for ages, I admire that kind of tolerance lol. Really nice listener.
Such a empethetic listener. Listens to you without judging you and makes you feel comfortable and emotionally safe all along. Definitely recommend this listener.
Very nice person. Very supportive
Valarie is one of the most nicest people I have ever spoken to, she really listens and understands well, she will be there for you and be a friend if you go through a difficult time. Much love for her!
so helpful, i feel like i’m getting somewhere good
Great listener and very empathetic. I felt supported and heard. She is a truly kind hearted person.
Lift you up in your bad times this one will. Answer quickly they do.
Absolute pleasure to speak with - she was extremely responsive
Thoughtful, kind, open and responsive, just a complete and whole human whom I really love talking with
Hello Valarie, thank you so much for being a great listener to me and everyone else here who needs someone great like you to be their listener. I am thankful can met you, thanks for listen to me, being a great listener and gave me some courage to face my problems,fear and anxiety. Keep being awesome and best wishes for you. Your friend, Cynthia.
Really good listener. Loving, caring and has a special way of lifting your spirit.
She is an amazing listener and made me feel comfortable and safe
Great listener and conversationalist! 10/10 would recommend
I feel so much calmer now, hearing from an outsider to the situation and hearing her opinion helped validate my feelings about myself and the situation
Very nice person.loved her.
understanding and nice
she's so kind and gentle and warm
She's great and very friendly!
She's very kind and caring, like a best friend you've known for many years. Every message she sends is heartwarming.
I really loved this chat, she really understood what i need and helped me❤. THANK YOU ❤❤
She is an awesome listener.
Such an amazing and kind person.
she helped so much... the best
She is so kind and loving. She is my Wonder Woman.
Super sweet and helpful
Amazing. No one has ever understood my like she has.
Amazing listener! So kind and caring!
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