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VIVI1989
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Number of ratings9 Number of reviews6 Listens toTo Teens LanguagesEnglish, Indonesian Listener sinceDec 25, 2023 Last activein last month GenderFemale PathStep 127 People helped40 Chats199 Forum posts85 Forum upvotes145
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Hello! I'm Victoria 😊

I've had my fair share of struggles with mental health (depression, anxiety, stress, academic pressure, loneliness, etc), however, I'm getting better and growing each day. I want to listen to you and help you realize, you're not alone. 

When I was going through my own issues, I felt like I was alone, with no support system, and no one to listen. I hope I can make someone here realize that they are listened to, that what they're feeling is valid, and deserve to be heard. 

Recent forum posts
Limerence; unhealthy emotional dependence
Relationship Stress / by VIVI1989
Last post
 March 20th
...See more I've been chatting with this guy for 1-2 months. Because of this, i've been infatuated with him. I think about him constantly and daydream about him. I'm bothered when he takes long hours to reply. Like, today. He hasn't responded to me for more than half the day and i've been constantly checking my phone. However, i don't even know if i like him or if it's just limerence; falling in love with the idea of him/love.  There are times when i think i like someone, but when i think about us dating, or when they tell me they like me, i end up losing interest. Perhaps because i'm emotionally unavailable? It's exhausting though to feel this way. I'm unhealthily emotionally dependent on someone/the idea of someone. This isn't the first time i've experienced this. When i'm infatuated with someone, i block other people out/talk to them less. All i want to do is talk to them. My mood depends on how they respond to me. I constantly daydream about them and fantasize; making up scenarios. I try to do other things, but in the end i always end up thinking, daydreaming, or wondering why he hasn't texted me back. It's extremely tiring. I just want to be normal, and build a healthy emotional connection with someone.  How do i stop romanticizing the idea of someone? How do i build a healthy emotional connection without dependence with someone? I think i know how. But trying is really hard. 
Criticism?
Poetry / by VIVI1989
Last post
 March 11th
...See more So...@ComradeRuhi is this how you're supposed to do it? (ask for criticism?) is it in this section? please do tell if i'm doing it correctly 😅 Anyways, my poem: Nature’s thoughts December mist, wisps of butterfly frost flutters down on trunks and bridges, a decried chrysanthemum once sun-kissed, golden brown,  left bruised, marred on its core; once, in a moment of time.  The wild bear’s hibernating on the clear pathway, not giving a sign of a groan or a stifled roar.  Lilies and hyacinths stand still kissed by pellets of glistening snowflakes, with army ants going down the log, lodging, carrying scarce morsels of rotten apple.  In the morning air before birds can be heard chirping, the pack of disheveled wolves come slivering with  serrated teeth ravishing the scent of curdled blood.  The sky’s murky and gray, like unkempt swamp water with planktons and bluegills gliding below in pairs on river streams full of half squashed plastic cans.  Day in and day out, in waning sun and luminescent stars, the uttered thought of nature wakes in different sounds of howls and wisps, in whispers and unfettered thoughts, in arctic poles and sahara deserts; once, in a moment of time. 
My bees
Arts & Crafts / by VIVI1989
Last post
 March 1st
...See more I will be mkaing a third one to add to the top (:
Question?
ADHD Support / by VIVI1989
Last post
 March 5th
...See more Ok, so i'd first like to say i'm not diagnosed in anyway. i don't even think what i have is ADHD, but i'm also not sure where else i should ask. I have a hard time focusing (my attention span is really bad). It was fine before, but now i just have alot of random thoughts and i have a hard time focusing on studying/learning now, when i could've managed it better before.  Does anyone know how to focus on something (like learning) when your brain is in a mess with thoughts (I mean, probably meditation is the answer, but a confirmation or other tips would be nice)?
Crochet grindd
Arts & Crafts / by VIVI1989
Last post
 January 31st
...See more Continuing making my folklore cardigan (taylor swift), hopefully get to finish it in around a month!! (need to work on the sleeves, cuffs, and sticking it together though, tht's def gonna take awhile)
My fav sad love song
Music & Dance / by VIVI1989
Last post
 January 22nd
...See more I love you so - the walters "I hope you feel what I felt when you shattered my soul 'Cause you were cruel and I'm a fool So, please let me go"
Romance book recommendations (preferably underrated, no smut)
Reading & Writing / by VIVI1989
Last post
 February 1st
...See more Like the title says, can anyone please give me any romance book recommendations (preferably underrated, no smut, can be straight/queer, just pls be wholesome :) )
Hello, new here, suppose i want to share my writing :)
Reading & Writing / by VIVI1989
Last post
 January 22nd
...See more Wrote this poem awhile ago, tell me what you think about it : ) Tail Lights Tail lights, city skies, fog fumes dragging the skyline.   Moonlight, blue nights, startling storms, sapphire gin on ice.  The incandescent glow from the north, the setting sun, The parting clouds, aurora’s swirl rustling naked trees, In the drive home a desolate town, the glistening sheets Of snowfall, the scent of incense in the windshield, his disfigured shadow.  I watch him.  Rolling the straw paper In his fingers, glancing up through his lashes,  the current exhale of smoke hovers above his head like a dusty halo.  The first time. His slender fingers, prickled and thin Indented with white powder, hold the matchstick to a figure.  In a split second, a montage of everything flickers in a frame, Back in childhood before the end’s petered out, In the veranda, with summer skies and poplar trees, Along the long, trodded hallways of an abandoned treehouse, His lanky, tawny limbs, spread out, laid on the hardwood floor We used to stand on.  The flame’s blown out. And I'm here. Famished and alone. 
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