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Finding Old Replies
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 June 4th, 2021
...See more Does anyone know if there’s a way to see all my old replies to forum threads? I can find threads I’ve started, but not ones I’ve replied to
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And all I loved I loved alone
LGBTQ+ / MOGII Support / by Valdezinator
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 July 28th, 2021
...See more Hey everyone! I find writing on these things terribly awkward and constantly feel the urge to rewrite what I’ve just written, so I’m going to try to keep this brief. I’m asexual. Probably... no... definitely. I read the book Loveless and my feelings match pretty closely to the main character’s, so asexual aromantic it is I guess. Now what? I waited a full year to see if my feelings changed or if I was just immature, but now it’s pride month again (Pride Month with a capital P?) and I promised myself last year that I would do something this year. So... I breached the subject with my mom—just in a sort of joking way— and it didn’t go as smoothly as I’d hoped. Apparently being 19 and never having any sexual or romantic feelings for anyone ever is still “too young to know” and I should “wait 4 years”. I don’t want to ruin any relationships by pushing this topic, but I also feel like I can’t keep... is hiding the word? What I mean to say is that being asexual in the open wouldn’t actually change my life in any way. I just don’t like having to dial down that part of me. The resolution I’ve made now is to just stop saying I’m straight. I’m not going to run down the street waving a flag and I’m not going to come out to anyone, but I’m also not going to outright lie about how I feel. Wow... this was not brief at all. I’m not asking for anything specific, but any advice or comments or stories would be great. Just looking to get this off my chest and find somebody to share with. Ok... stop revising what you’ve written and just hit the button already!
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