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Velvetnightmare
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Got dumped a day before 10th anniversary
Relationship Stress / by Velvetnightmare
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 March 27th, 2021
...See more My first relationship ended 2 days ago. It was a long term, serious and first relationship I ever had. We started off at late teenage years all the way to adult. He was the one intiated the breakup although I try to stop it by making promises. He seemed to be very cold and cruel when breaking things off while throwing blames at me. Some example of words was I was the reason by throwing tantrum at random times, the way I talk bout my insecurities to him, how I am the one to be blamed for him leaving me by me spoiling a good relationship. He said I hurt him too much for him to repeatedly accept my apology and do it again. Other way is that he was not exactly a perfect guy nor I am too..Whatever conversation I bring up previously is always my issue and he never validates nor acknowledge it..It was was always led to me acting crazy and him saying I am always the crazy one..FYI he is a leo..We do have ups and downs all these years..After broke off, I did contact him twice in 2 days roll which makes matter worse. The way he belittled me, how everything is my fault and none of his, I was immature, please think what you did wrong while previously he was saying I am the one always spitting the venom to him. At this point, I do not how to manage the situation because I have never dealt with it before and I was dependent on him as well..I was trying for the No Contact rule but I failed everyday..I just do not know what to feel in fact it was more on numbness instead of sadness anymore..
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