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XiTalksSoft
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Number of ratings68 Number of reviews18 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish Listener sinceNov 5, 2015 Last activeover 6 months ago GenderFemale PathStep 183 People helped117 Chats399 Group support chats422 Listener group chats685 Forum posts58 Forum upvotes100
Bio
Hi! I'm Xi and I've been through a lot, worked through a lot, and am still working through a lot. I'm 26, trans, pansexual, and grey-asexual giving me lots of experience with LGBTQ+ issues. I have personal experience with depression, self-harm, PTSD, anxiety, eating disorders, and have experienced sexual assault first-hand. I'm also ok with chatting about things involving BDSM, D/s relationships, and fetishes. I hope I can be someone to confide in who can help you in any way I can! If I'm not online feel free to leave me a message!

**Currently I am only taking short-term chats and cannot offer long term chats**
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Reasons for Recovery: A Letter To You
Eating Disorder Support / by XiTalksSoft
Last post
 December 15th, 2016
...See more Dear Struggling Friend, You could say that my reason for coming to treatment is a slightly complicated answer. People want you to say that your doing it for yourself. Your doing it to free yourself, but sometimes that isnt how it works. We tend to have a lot of different voices in our minds and unfortunately most of them dont want treatment or for you to get better. Sometimes your ED mind tells you that you dont need treatment and youre fine. The ED mind can try to resist treatment at all costs. Sometimes your depressed mind tells you that you dont deserve treatment. That youre not worthy of it and dont care about getting better. Then there is the anxious mind, the mind that is scared of treatment, content with how youre doing avoiding the new at all costs. When it seems like all these minds are taking control sometimes you need to find something external to motivate you, which is what I did. For me, the reason I came into treatment wasnt for any internal factors, but external factors. It was my family and friends. I saw how much they hurt and the pain I caused. I could see the look in their eyes every time I stood up or it was meal times. Knowing they hurt made me hurt and thats why I came here. I guess what Im saying is that your motivation for recovery doesnt always have to be for yourself, but it can be for others and thats ok. Eventually, you might be able to do it for yourself, and Im hoping I can someday. Any motivation is something to start with, the initial push. Take that motivation and use it. Let it fuel the fire inside you that keeps you going. Remember, you ARE strong and you ARE loved. Love and Soft Feels, ~Xi ----------------------------------------------------------- This is a letter I wrote in treatment about reasons for recovery. I hope someone can get something out of it.
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Feedback & Reviews
You're undoubtedly one of the best listeners I have found on the 7 cups, intelligent, kind and able to make people feel important and valid. I haven't noticed any single prejudice or even the smallest judgement. It's not that you just keep it for yourself, I'm sure you really don't judge and that you're simply prejudice-free. That's why you're so great at listening! Our chat helped me a lot. It was exactly what I needed.
Best listener ever comfortable chatting with a variety of topics
Good
Very helpful and warm!
Lovely, compassionate person. Made me feel safe and comfortable and is very open minded.
She actually cared and understood what i was saying
This listener is AMAZING! Knew exactly what to say to make me feel understood. Definately made me feel not so alone. Thank you!
A really great emphatic and gentle listener, who cheered me up a lot and made me feel like i am understood very quickly.
I am glad to have found them~
Good listener! Especially good if you want to discuss sexual issues. The listener is a trained sexologist and based on her experience, she makes good suggestions. Overall a nice and bold person to talk to.



I am really glad I meet her she is a wonderful listener.
I know the active listening and repeat back statements helped me immensely. I would appreciate a little less professionalism somewhat I think actually. A peer to talk to. But I was helped immensely!
Amazing listener! Headed the conversation exactly where I needed to. Really professional and sweet! :)
I was really nervous to start a live chat with someone, but Xi made me feel really comfortable the whole time. Even when I was not sure what to say, they kept the conversation going, until I felt better so I did not feel like I had to make something up or stop talking too quickly. It was good to talk with someone who gets how I am feeling. Xi helped me to look at the positives and encouraged me to look at how far I have come in my growth.
thank you very very much :)
was vary helpful, I look foreword to talking with them again
She listened well would really like to talk to her more thanks again
Great Listener!
I could tell she really understood me
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