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ZombieLife89
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Anxiety Support / by ZombieLife89
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 July 27th, 2023
...See more I recently discovered husband cheating on me and that he plans to divorce me soon. I have not worked a job in 3 years (was a difficult unstable period with him trying to adjust in 2 foreign countries) and am fully dependant on him financially. I have a language/humanities degree but now want to explore another career in design. I am afraid I will be no good and am afraid if it's too late for me to start something new. I have been trying out UX design by self studying but I feel an imposter syndrome and I can't seem to finish a portfolio to start applying for jobs. I am feeling a bit overwhelmed. I am also considering learning to code, but my husband told me I have no logic and I shouldn't waste my time on it lol I feel my self esteem and confidence has really taken a hit in this marriage
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Seeking Support- Spouse cheated on me and we're heading for divorce
Newbie Hub / by ZombieLife89
Last post
 July 28th, 2023
...See more Hi all, Not sure if I'm posting this correctly as it's my first time. As per title, I'm going through a very difficult time in my life right now. I wonder if there's anyone here who's been through something similar or could help me. My spouse cheated on me and blamed me for it. I was gaslit and made to doubt myself as they kept playing mind games with me instead of being upfront. Now I'm in a very complicated situation as I can't leave them right away, but we plan to eventually divorce. I was told everything is my fault, and even when confronted, they refused to accept any responsibility. I was compared to this other woman and I was told nobody would want me if I didn't change everything about myself from my appearance to my attitude and personality. Does it get better with time? I have many fears about the future as I was fully dependant on my spouse for the 3 years we've been married and I lost all my self-esteem and confidence. I'm afraid I won't be able to find a job to support myself. I'm afraid of loneliness. I'm afraid of a lot of things, but trying to be positive.
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