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agreeableShade4304
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I’m feeling very much alone
Friendship Support / by agreeableShade4304
Last post
 May 18th
...See more Lately, I’ve been feeling very much alone. My closest friend who I’ve been friends with since HS passed away. And my success with the opposite sex has not been stellar. I just feel stuck.
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Should I move on?
Friendship Support / by agreeableShade4304
Last post
 December 2nd, 2024
...See more I have a bit of a hard decision to make that involves my closest friend.My friend has not been the most responsible person in the world. However, the past few years he seems to have been going through a bad patch. Diagnosed with diabetes, evicted from two different apartments, fired from a job after 12 years and will not tell me why. And to top it all off he has managed to be estranged from his sister, his only family in NJ. One would think that after being diagnosed with diabetes and changing his health habit managed to get it under control that he didn't need the medication anymore. However, he did not take care of himself as one would think and he had a diabetic attack that put him the hospital. He got out of the hospital and you would think that would be enough to scare someone straight and keep it under control. This unforutnately was not the case and he stopped taking the diabetes medication. And then one day, he collapsed near his home, his sister found him and got him to the hospital. However, this time his kidneys failed and he is now on dialysis several times a week. Then some time after that he was evicted from his second apartment as the owner wanted him out and didn't want to hear it anymore. Apparently he had money issues.....again. As I stated he is very irresponsible at times. He found another place and almost got evicted from that one due to financial issues and although I was advised not to, I helped him out financially to keep him from being homeless. During this time I've been watching his appearance degrade, I even made mention of it but it fell on deaf ears. And being estranged from his sister means she will not help him in anyway. Although he has been my friend for a very long time, I have been contemplating walking away as I don't feel this is good for me to be exposed to his situation. And, this past weekend when I saw him he could barely walk and just was not himself and was totally unkempt. I repeatedly asked if he was ok, he just said he had this taste in his mouth he couldn't get rid of, so i essentially got nowhere. I am at the point that if its time for me to just move on... What do you all think? thanks
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Been awhile….coming back
Anxiety Support / by agreeableShade4304
Last post
 August 24th, 2024
...See more Hi all, it’s been awhile since I’ve been here and I thought I was improving. But, tonight while having dinner I felt the anxiety coming on. I’m not sure what’s brought it on. Possibly lately I’m not happy with my life and work has been stressful.
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Moments of clarity occur at the odd moments - possible claustrophobia
Anxiety Support / by agreeableShade4304
Last post
 July 6th, 2024
...See more I was at the gym today, pedaling on the stationary bike and I was thinking about my anxiety and what could be triggering it. And it finally hit me, I believe its some measure of claustrophobia. Generally I am not claustrophobic but the thought of being in a closed room with a running a/c unit does bring it up. As I thought it about it, I had similar feeling of anxiety when alone in some hotel rooms. I did some reading and found that clautrophobia is anxiety issue. I'm just wondering if anyone else has had claustrophobia and how did they deal with it. 
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Difficulty with sleep
Anxiety Support / by agreeableShade4304
Last post
 July 23rd, 2024
...See more With my anxiety, I’ve had some difficulty with getting restful sleep. I go to bed fine but a few hours later I find myself awake and having difficulty going back to sleep which bit am sure is anxiety related.I usually end up going on my computer until I tire myself out and fall asleep. I’m curious how you all handle sleep difficulties
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Coping with Anxiety
Anxiety Support / by agreeableShade4304
Last post
 June 24th, 2024
...See more I know coping with anxiety is hard. And I’ve been down that road many a times. One thing that has helped me is to “get out of my head” so to speak. As I have noted what feeds anxiety is over-thinking. I’ve found distractions help, going to a gym helps. My biggest obstacle was me, and when I discovered that “staying out of my head” helps a lot. My gym trainer calls it “staying in the moment” and not let your mind run off on some wild thoughts.
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It has come back somewhat
Anxiety Support / by agreeableShade4304
Last post
 June 23rd, 2024
...See more I’m no stranger to anxiety, the last time I had really bad anxiety was in the early 2000s. I ended up seeing a therapist who did help and after sometime I came to terms with it and had it under control. However, as of late, I have started to develop some anxiety over being alone in a closed room. This is due to having to use a window a/c unit. I'm not sure where this sudden fear of being alone.
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