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ambitiousCity3124
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Job hunting and my anxiety disorder: A perspective from a college sophomore
Anxiety Support / by ambitiousCity3124
Last post
 September 21st, 2017
...See more I read a pretty helpful article on Psychology Today talking about tips for anxious people like me to handle job seeking (you can read the article here [https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/shyness-is-nice/201304/job-hunting-tips-people-anxiety]). I find this article particularly helpful to me these days since I'm thinking about applying for a part-time job I really like yet I feel anxious about how I'm gonna handle interviews or even the most simple thing: the preparation of CV, cover letter and a list of my articles. So what have I learnt from the article published on Psychology Today? Well, there are a few things which I'll mention below: 1. Take pride in my academic competence: Compared to other young people, I certainly have a stronger start than they do since I have a solid education background ever since I was a small child. In middle school and high school, I attended schools for gifted students and until now, when I'm already a college sophomore, I'm a student of the BA Honors Program. Sounds impressive, doesn't it? Yes, I am lucky enough that I have good education. It seems to people that there's no way I can be umemployed forever since my academic results are satisfactory and I am a knowledgeable person. Not being egocentric but it's cool that people have such positive opinions about me like that and I am grateful that people are able to see my potentials. 2. Show my enthusiasm to make up for my lack of work experience: Since I'm young and I do not have many work experiences, the tip provided in the article is surprisingly effective. Apart from avoiding writing chronological resume (and write a skill-based one instead), now I know exactly how to respond when being asked about my employment history. "I was fortunate that I was able to devote my full efforts to my studies. If I get the job, I would focus on my work just as I did on my studies. My academic record shows that I am very capable." 3. "Acknowledge my anxiety if necessary": Just some simple yet simple words like these would work wonders: "You're right, I am very nervous because I really want this job. I would love this work and I have great training in this area. I believe I would do well in court--even though I'm visibly nervous today, I have still been able to answer all your questions appropriately." 4. Make my anxiety become a strength, not a weakness: Just like what the person in the article told the interviewer: "I sometimes can feel rather anxious. Sometimes that means I don't perform so well in an interview. On the other hand, this characteristic makes me very hard working and conscientious, which helped me do so well in school. I believe it would also enable me to be very productive in this position." 5. Practice with a supportive person: Practice makes perfect, simple as that So what about you, my 7cups friends? What do you learn from the article? What are your experiences with job hunting when you at the same time have to deal with your anxiety disorder?
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[Afult] Anxiety and depression- Looking for long-term support listener
General Support / by ambitiousCity3124
Last post
 August 26th, 2017
...See more Hi, I am currently a college student and I'm looking for a verified listener who has experience with anxiety disorder and depression. At the time being, I'm struggling to adapt what I learned in the anxiety self-help guide (available on 7cups) so I need a listener who can be my companion on my way towards recovery. If you're a verified listener and interested in helping me, please reply to this post and I'll send you a private message later
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How my disturbing childhood distorts my perception of the world
Trauma Support / by ambitiousCity3124
Last post
 July 16th, 2017
...See more I've been growing up in a tumultous home where there are two alcoholics (my dad and grandfather). In my society, it's not uncommon to live with my family when I'm over 18. My dad has never hit me but he has threatened to hit me quite a few time, let alone constant verbal abuse whenever he's drunk. Dad's drunken belligerence is the worst. He once hit my mom when I was in middle school. I was totally horrified. I wanted to help mom but I was scared that I couldn't do anything against dad. After that time, mom was about to divorce with my dad but for some reasons, she didn't do it. Until now, my dad is still an alcoholic. Whenever he gets back from work, he drinks a lot and as a result, he gets drunk. It's really frustrating when he verbally attack the family members. About my grandfather, when he's drunk, he often verbally abuses other people. My mom is already frustrated with 2 alcoholics and she complains about them a lot. Mom has really bad temper. It's sad to admit that I rarely fight with people but that's not the case for my mom. Ever since I was a child, my mom often ignores my emotional needs. She gets angry with me and ridicules me when she's frustrated with dad and grandpa. I know that it's not true that all people are bad but I've come to believe that no one is real, cept for miserable/ abusive people. In relationships, I often fall for bad people. I somehow hold the belief that I can fix them while obviously, I can't. During high school time, I struggled to create and maintain meaningful relationships. I pushed people away when they wanted me to open up to them. I was scared that if people knew the truth about my family, they would hate me. It's unreasonable to think so, I know. Currently, I'm dealing with anxiety disorder. Many days at college are like hell to me since I'm stressed all the time. Of course, I sought for professional help before but therapy is costly so I stopped seeing my therapist after a few months of counselling. I don't know where my life will head to. My self-esteem is so low that I almost go paranoid when thinking about whether I'm loveable or not :(
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