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antihero9
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parenting help
General Support / by antihero9
Last post
 June 25th, 2024
...See more i have an almost 2 and almost 4 year old (girl and boy) My older one doesn't listen and therefore causes my little one to copy everything he does and it gets super frustrating. I try everything and don't see improvement. My husband says I need to be more firm, but i dont know how much more firm to be- I already feel so mean and like im always getting upset or yelling and I am so over it. this is NOT the mom I wanted or saw myself being. I always wanted to be that cool mom who was chill and did calm parenting and never yelled or lost my temper, but here I am, the complete opposite, and always being told by my husband that I am a *** parent and to do what he says instead.......then when I do what he suggests and they don't listen hes all oh come here (to the kid) and gives in....like he says we need to get on the same page, but then he does the complete opposite and im just so confused and over it. Ive tried sticker reward systems, taking things away, redirecting, time out, consequences, natural consequences, ignoring, yelling, EVERYTHING. I feel so defeated and down on myself, and I don't even know where I'm going with this, I guess I just need somewhere to vent where no one knows me
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Feeling mom guilt and defeat
7 Cups Online Therapy / by antihero9
Last post
 August 28th, 2023
...See more Mom of an almost 2 and almost 4 year old here. My marriage isn’t the best and we bump heads on parenting because I do everything to run the household and hubby doesn’t do much, but always has his 2 cents to give about how my parenting isn’t working. Makes me feel like a failure as my kids don’t listen. I feel burnt out doing everything and trying to balance home and work life while trying to keep everything together. For everyone. But myself. I feel empty and dead inside. I have no emotions left to give or feel, except for exhaustion and self disgust. I can’t feel empathy or sympathy when my oldest gets hurt or gets in trouble. It’s always an I told you so situation and cause and effect of their actions that I can’t be bothered to feel bad for. I told you 100 times if you do that this will happen. Then it happens they get hurt and I’m there saying told you so instead of comforting. I feel disgusted in myself and hate who I am becoming. I have no much mom guilt and feel like I am ruining them and being too hard on them. But I need to be or they’ll keep walking all over me. My relationship is not good and talk of him leaving always comes up during these times and I just feel so lost and alone.
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