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aquaChestnut3262
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Cant feel love
Relationship Stress / by aquaChestnut3262
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 November 8th, 2022
...See more My bf loves me a lot but i don’t know if I love him as much as he does! We are doing long distance almost always and I’m so tired of it! He doesn’t care about intimacy and never ask me about our sexual desires.. even when we are together he does things the way he like and even tell me to do the way he wants only… my needs are not met and I haven’t been able to communicate this to him at all I am scared if i tell this , it will hurt nd thinking of leaving the country so that i can drift apart from him! I know it is selfish but he loves me a lot that he will not accept if i talk this if anyone has gone through something similar please help
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Needs not being met
Relationship Stress / by aquaChestnut3262
Last post
 October 2nd, 2022
...See more Me and my boyfriend are in a long distance relationship. I’m into corporate life and he is an army officer! we never talk about sex or physical intimacy on calls.. when we meet after 2 months or so we will just make love once or twice which is really passionate and we both enjoy ! but im not having an orgasm or i am not feeling the best when we do things! When he is done he just stops and move on ! This has been happening for a long time now this is really affecting me bcoz he is really happy and I’m not ! My needs are not being met and i think about then other relationships where i was feeling happier! And then it makes me guilty he is a highly egoistic person so i don’t know how to tell this to him ! He might take it in a different sense please advise what to do
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Major Guilt trip!
Relationship Stress / by aquaChestnut3262
Last post
 August 13th, 2022
...See more I have had complicated relationships, my first bf was a control freak and 2 nd one cheated on me(who I believed was the one) During covid, me and my bestie( from last 10 years ) got really close and became a thing! He has always loved me but for me he was just a friend but we started dating! it was amazing the first days but slowly i felt that he’s a different person as a bf but ignored the fact bcoz i loved him! Then he left for Army training as he got selection as an officer… i was heart broken but was supportive! However as days went i felt more comfortable that he was not there near by and i can just be myself! after 2 years of staying with parents, I went on a trip and made a mistake of making out with another guy! And he was a narcissistic manipulative person! I was so stupid and blindly trusted him, he persuaded me to break up with my officer guy and convinced me that he is the best for me ! i was blind and I believed him and later realised the true colour! i sat down and tried to introspect why i did what i did and figured that there are differences in the way me and my bestie thinks! I am an open minded feminist and he is a male chauvinist but his love for me is endless! And i was not comfortable being under him , but i wanted my space and independence! And i feel covid might have pushed my vulnerability to be with him! But i don’t know!!! i have major guilt trip and regret for all this and making my bestie officer’s life hell! I feel like i should take some punishment for the mistakes I’ve done! Yesterday ( after 1 year) officer g ot a break from army and we met when he said how much he loved me and how much he want things back with us and he’s ready to change anything to work this out! i didn’t tell him the fact the i cheated on him but mentioned it in a subtle way that i was fooled! i dont know what to do now! I am having anxiety attacks ! I know no one will love me like him but i dont know if its fair to do ! And I don’t know how to build the spark we lost! or i should just let him go! Please help
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