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Is he Cheating?
Relationship Stress / by babyblue770
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 April 19th, 2021
...See more We have a son who just turned two a few weeks ago. And we have a daughter on the way, I am currently 22 weeks pregnant. We have been together for 12 years and have been married for 4. I’ve always trusted my husband with everything. But I feel like since we started having children we aren’t as close. Which I’ve heard is normally what happens in relationships. I’m a stay at home mom and he’s a manager so he works long hours. A few weeks ago I was using his iPad to watch our son nap on his camera monitor. After a few minutes that’s when I saw (while he is at work) send a text to a group text with his friends, as I went to turn off the group’s notifications (as I do every.single.day) so it wouldn’t keep catching my eye and me think our son is moving. I saw that he had just sent a text to them saying him and this waitress while he was at lunch were “eye fucking” each other and commented on how she had a “tight little body”. I ended up questioning him about it that night but only answer I could get out of him was “it was just guy talk”. So of course I try to believe him and drop it. But ever since then I’ve still had it in the back of my mind. Fast forward to last night, He got home from work about 7pm and said he was gonna go play some pool with friends. He’s normally the homebody type so out of the blue was just really strange to me. He even said right before he left, “if you don’t trust me just go through my iPad so you know I’m not lying!” Well if anyone knows anything about Apple products/iPads. You know that you can get EVERYTHING that’s on your iPhone, onto your iPad.. everything except text messages. iMessages yes, but not text messages. So after our son went to sleep about an hour later, I grabbed his iPad again and I didn’t find anything, until I went to his recently deleted pictures. And thats when I saw he had just taken dick pics a few days before. The time on them were stamped 1am 2am 2:30am and 3am which made it even more strange being so spread out. When I saw what day it was, I immediately remembered, that was one of the nights our son wasn’t feeling well and was asleep in our bed, so my husband had slept in the spare/guest bedroom. That was his excuse for not sleeping in there, when before it had never been a problem and he would sleep in there with us. But I had woke up in the middle of the night to use the restroom (pregnant life lol) and saw that the little light on our sons monitor that we have in our room for when he sleeps in there was “red” which means someone is watching the live view. When normally it’s “blue” when no one is watching it (my husband has never noticed this and I’ve never told him). When I got done with the restroom I noticed the monitor light was still red, so I thought maybe he was watching it earlier and fell asleep. So I walked down the hallway to go turn it off and I hear noises of someone fumbling around and I hear the spare bedroom bed squeak. I peaked in there, all lights off and he was acting like he was asleep. I immediately go back to our room and see the monitor light is blue (meaning he’s not watching it anymore) I laid in bed for about 10 minutes and I see the monitor light turn back red. So I KNOW he was awake. The next morning he was leaving for work and as he was still in the driveway, and hadn’t driven off yet, he sends me a text saying “you are the best mother and wife! Thank you for all you do!”. Which he never send me stuff like that so I feel like he sent it out of guilt for doing something he’s not supposed to be doing. Am I crazy or does anyone else suspect he’s cheating? If you think he’s cheating what should I do? Confront or wait until I have more evidence before I say something? I mean I don’t have proof that he sent those dick pics to anyone but that doesn’t mean anything since I can only see iMessages. But I did take pictures/small video of the pictures in his recently deleted folder. Just in case. In past relationships yes, I’ve taken pictures of myself but anytime I ever did, it was to be sent to someone, not just to have them on my phone. So I won’t really believe that if he tries to tell me that.
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