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Emotionally Immature Parents
Depression Support / by babybluerose
Last post
 June 19th
...See more Dear 7Cups Friends, I am happy to be here.  I am 39, bipolar and disabled living with my parents.  I live in California where a one-bedroom is $3,000 a month.  I am blessed to not need to pay any rent because the house is paid off.  But a therapist said my "rent" is my emotional burden. I never want to move out.  I want to be there for my parents.  They have no friends and they act emotionally divorced from each other.   My heart breaks every day seeing my mom and dad say nothing to each other.  They only talk when it's necessary.  And my mom mentally abuses my dad saying she would like him to die.  I am not here asking for advice on moving out.  I would like someone to tell  me of a similar emotionally immature parents story so I can feel better.    I have this book:  Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson  I will look through this community postings and support you guys too. Best Wishes, Baby Blue Rose
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Dysfunctional Families
35 & Over Community / by babybluerose
Last post
 January 16th, 2023
...See more Do you have a dysfunctional family? I am 37 years old and can’t afford to move out. I have bipolar 1 disorder and disabled. I’m super stable because of my rigid self-care. My parents relationship is very unhealthy. My mom mentally abused my dad and it hurts me. I can’t speak up for my dad because my mom will kick me out. I would feel better if people here would describe a dysfunctional family or relationship so I will gain perspective. I can’t change my parents. But I can change how I feel.
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Not attracted to Mr. Right
35 & Over Community / by babybluerose
Last post
 September 16th, 2022
...See more I met him in 2005. In 2010-2014, we were boyfriend & girlfriend. We were good emotionally and physically (intimacy). He’s the only guy who accepts me for me. I have a disability and bipolar. He’s kindhearted, smart, reliable, honorable and thoughtful. I broke up with him in 2014 because I was too bipolar. Afterwards, I dated so many guys that only wanted sex and not a relationship. I got so heartbroken that I went from one guy to another to try to heal, but the wound got too painful. I felt so ashamed that I wish I burned to death on their bed. In 2021, I got back with Mr. Right. But something changed. I didn’t feel any chemistry. I only hug and hold hands with him. I didn’t kiss him or anything more. I feel empty with him, besides him being so fun to hangout with and how good he’s with with my mom. I feel friendship with him. Mr. Right is understanding. He takes only minimal physical contact so he can be with me. The conditions of him being my boyfriend doesn’t require me to have sex with him. I get sex dreams about another guy and this guy is not as good as Mr. Right. But at least I’m not sleeping with a whole bunch of Mr. Wrongs. I’ve improved. I think I’m attracted to the wrong guys (who are not loving) because I don’t love myself. I’m attracted to what’s familiar from childhood. As a child, I felt neglected and unimportant. And I’m so drawn to guys who make me feel that way. If I love myself enough one day, I’ll be able to be intimate with Mr. Right? What if I take longer than 1-2 years? What if I never? I’m faithful to my Mr. Right. But my heart is closed. Please help! Do you know anyone who has a similar problem?
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Thankful for 7 Cup
35 & Over Community / by babybluerose
Last post
 September 15th, 2022
...See more I have a question to ask. I’m generally very mentally healthy. But I need advice on one thing.
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