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banbelion
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Getting impatient with myself
Relationship Stress / by banbelion
Last post
 September 26th, 2023
...See more My ex and I dated all through high school and college. Long distance. We met online and we’d been obsessed with each other ever since. But after 10 years, I broke up with him. I could go into why, but I’ve accepted that it was the right thing to do. But that doesn’t make the pain go away. All the hurt, anger, and sadness keeps reappearing. And of course it’s going to take more than a week to get over this break up of my first and only relationship. But it’s frustrating. I was happy in the relationship until I wasn’t. He wasn’t willing to take the steps necessary to change that. So it’s over. And now I just have to wait for my emotions to catch up with the logic of the situation. I know I should be kinder to myself, but frankly I feel like I’ve spent more than enough time thinking about him and would like to continue the rest of my life now. But forcing the issue just makes it worse. I even tried joining a dating app before deleting it because I don’t actually want to go on dates right now. I don’t know what kind of feedback I’m looking for. I’m just sick of going to bed sad every night.
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Identifying your limits
ADHD Support / by banbelion
Last post
 September 21st, 2023
...See more Something I sometimes struggle with is figuring out what I actually can and can’t do. It’s a common thing to be told you’re using ADHD as an excuse, or that you’re supposed to be able to do certain things without help that are actually really challenging for you. But because it’s hard to get reasonable accommodations, it can also be difficult to know in what ways I actually am capable of growing and changing. I’m curious how other people balance being fair to themselves; navigating when criticism (internal or external) actually has a valid point vs when it’s ableist.
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